Never Make Someone Priority In your Life When You Remain an Option in Theirs
"NEVER make someone priority in YOUR LIFE-when YOU remain an OPTION in THEIRS!!"
I don’t remember where I heard that quote but it woke me up. How many times do you find yourself giving your entire being to someone and they do not respond? Often, huh? Many times we as women want something, let’s face it a man, so bad that we sacrifice who we are and what we do to get one. Do they return the favor? Does it equal out to what you give them? I can say that in my past relationships I was the one that gave it my all and received nothing in return. If I was truly what any of them wanted I would be with one of them now.
Do:
• You give gifts- Does he return the favor?
• You send emails throughout the day (an excessive amount)- Does he reply back or does he initiate them?
• You send text messages- Does he reply back? Is it a one word response?
• You cook his favorite meal, after he mentioned it to you while you were prying for some sort of information that you could use as a weapon for love- Does he cook for you?
• You buy him things- Does he buy you anything? Did he take the time to hear what you said you liked or was it a re-gift?
• You initiate calling him- Does he call you or initiate the calls? How often?
• You communicate with him- Does he listen or even communicate with you?
If you find that you want to send the letters, text messages, call, or gifts just don’t do it; especially if you are the one initiating it! Here’s the deal, if in fact you are working harder in keeping this guy in your life, you have already made your mistake. A man who wants you will do anything in the world to keep you around. Steve Harvey said it best- “A man will profess, protect, and provide for the woman that he likes.” If you do not get that in return, then my sister you need to keep on moving.
Do for yourself:
• Be prayerful-communicate with Christ always in whatever you do
• Occupy your time with being virtuous, build yourself up
• Choose the right friends-those who are like Naomi in Ruth that will tell you to wait, sit and be still
• Join an organization that will help others
• Find a hobby
• Travel & Network to better yourself
• Share your knowledge by mentoring
It does get lonely and you want to be held and heard. The First who ever loved you is there to hold you when you are down, lonely, and will communicate with you. Your gifts to the Father have greater reward, not just in heaven but here on earth. He wants to see you happy, knows your feelings, desires, expectations but you have to acknowledge that and Him. One purpose of the Bible is to understand the path that you need to take here on earth before you even step foot at the pearly gates. Help a friend out when they need you, do community service, utilize your works and you will be rewarded. The man will come in due time and season.
An example of due time is with a dear friend of mine. She had traveled across the globe, received her Masters, works with those who are not able to do for themselves, blesses others with her voice, has the ability to lead and mentors many people. Each man that entered into her life was not of equal standard or value. They felt intimidated by her and who she was. I disapproved the fact that she would try so hard to reach the goals that society had placed on her about being in a relationship and in life. My girl is beautiful without society’s standards! She figured by the time that she graduated from college and had her own place, the man would follow. It wasn’t her time. She had to go through some things with men to realize that her work was not finished. From being laid off for several months, fasting, praying, and evolving the relationship with Christ and herself, she was reminded that those changes were for a purpose. The men that she had chosen were not her promise; they did not make her priority one when she gave them her all. Her realizing that and becoming more virtuous had brought her closer to her reward. She worked on her relationship with Christ first, then herself, and the blessings followed. Now she has someone who is on the same level, admires her for who she is and what she does. He is her missing piece and I praise the Lord for her, and him, because they acknowledge Christ in everything they do. Be it work, their conversations, or the people they mentor, the Lord is the head of their relationships and it shows. I love my girl to death and she teaches me things about me, her, and single women everyday (Yes I am sure she is reading this).
In essence, we as women have to build who we are with Christ before any man can enter into our lives. If you half step with Christ and yourself, you get half of a man. Sometimes we do not recognize it until everything we work for disappears, car, house, job, etc. That period of losing stuff is when you need to gain/build your love and relationship with the Lord and yourself. You in all that you do, behave, feel and see are a reflection of Him. Love you guys always. I am praying for and with you.
Shani
I don’t remember where I heard that quote but it woke me up. How many times do you find yourself giving your entire being to someone and they do not respond? Often, huh? Many times we as women want something, let’s face it a man, so bad that we sacrifice who we are and what we do to get one. Do they return the favor? Does it equal out to what you give them? I can say that in my past relationships I was the one that gave it my all and received nothing in return. If I was truly what any of them wanted I would be with one of them now.
Do:
• You give gifts- Does he return the favor?
• You send emails throughout the day (an excessive amount)- Does he reply back or does he initiate them?
• You send text messages- Does he reply back? Is it a one word response?
• You cook his favorite meal, after he mentioned it to you while you were prying for some sort of information that you could use as a weapon for love- Does he cook for you?
• You buy him things- Does he buy you anything? Did he take the time to hear what you said you liked or was it a re-gift?
• You initiate calling him- Does he call you or initiate the calls? How often?
• You communicate with him- Does he listen or even communicate with you?
If you find that you want to send the letters, text messages, call, or gifts just don’t do it; especially if you are the one initiating it! Here’s the deal, if in fact you are working harder in keeping this guy in your life, you have already made your mistake. A man who wants you will do anything in the world to keep you around. Steve Harvey said it best- “A man will profess, protect, and provide for the woman that he likes.” If you do not get that in return, then my sister you need to keep on moving.
Do for yourself:
• Be prayerful-communicate with Christ always in whatever you do
• Occupy your time with being virtuous, build yourself up
• Choose the right friends-those who are like Naomi in Ruth that will tell you to wait, sit and be still
• Join an organization that will help others
• Find a hobby
• Travel & Network to better yourself
• Share your knowledge by mentoring
It does get lonely and you want to be held and heard. The First who ever loved you is there to hold you when you are down, lonely, and will communicate with you. Your gifts to the Father have greater reward, not just in heaven but here on earth. He wants to see you happy, knows your feelings, desires, expectations but you have to acknowledge that and Him. One purpose of the Bible is to understand the path that you need to take here on earth before you even step foot at the pearly gates. Help a friend out when they need you, do community service, utilize your works and you will be rewarded. The man will come in due time and season.
An example of due time is with a dear friend of mine. She had traveled across the globe, received her Masters, works with those who are not able to do for themselves, blesses others with her voice, has the ability to lead and mentors many people. Each man that entered into her life was not of equal standard or value. They felt intimidated by her and who she was. I disapproved the fact that she would try so hard to reach the goals that society had placed on her about being in a relationship and in life. My girl is beautiful without society’s standards! She figured by the time that she graduated from college and had her own place, the man would follow. It wasn’t her time. She had to go through some things with men to realize that her work was not finished. From being laid off for several months, fasting, praying, and evolving the relationship with Christ and herself, she was reminded that those changes were for a purpose. The men that she had chosen were not her promise; they did not make her priority one when she gave them her all. Her realizing that and becoming more virtuous had brought her closer to her reward. She worked on her relationship with Christ first, then herself, and the blessings followed. Now she has someone who is on the same level, admires her for who she is and what she does. He is her missing piece and I praise the Lord for her, and him, because they acknowledge Christ in everything they do. Be it work, their conversations, or the people they mentor, the Lord is the head of their relationships and it shows. I love my girl to death and she teaches me things about me, her, and single women everyday (Yes I am sure she is reading this).
In essence, we as women have to build who we are with Christ before any man can enter into our lives. If you half step with Christ and yourself, you get half of a man. Sometimes we do not recognize it until everything we work for disappears, car, house, job, etc. That period of losing stuff is when you need to gain/build your love and relationship with the Lord and yourself. You in all that you do, behave, feel and see are a reflection of Him. Love you guys always. I am praying for and with you.
Shani
