As I learn and love the Lord I grow in Him
Evolution of A Woman
Where Have You Been Walking? “As I grew up, I began to realize how easy it is fro women to walk away from what is true, right, and healthy and how easy it is to walk toward what is wrong: wrong man's arm, wrong bar, wrong party.”
Pam Farrel
Father, please be with me as I order my steps. This week has been a struggle and is hard for me. I still find myself running and to where I do not know. You give me all that I can bear, but somewhere deep down I am still missing something and the hunger and pain are both, at times, too strong. Guide my words and my hands so that they may bless someone this week. Thank you for what You have given me thus far. Amen.
As I learn and love the Lord, I grow in Him.
I wanted to start this blog with a letter I sent a neighborhood friend awhile back. We were discussing how it is difficult being are age and still single. She was complaining that women, she felt who had men and did not deserve them, had more blessings then she. My friend wanted to know what it was she had been doing wrong. Only she could answer that (even if I did know the answer it was not for me to judge or bring it to her attention). Each persons walk through life is meant for them. The steps they take can either bring them closer to the Lord or push them further away; that is until He wakes them up and pulls them into His loving arms.
I am not going to lie; you know they say birds of a feather flock together. I used to feel the same way she did about being single. How come I do not have a man and why is it that all of these other people have someone to be with, the children, the cars, the home and I am sitting here all alone writing stories (ones that I wish were my reality). We have all been there, hating on a sister that’s got a man. Better yet, some women try to
take the man away from a good marriage just to get even. Honestly who are they getting even with, an ex, themselves, or the Lord?
I kept her name private but the words hit home today.
XXXXXXXX,
Let me say a little something..... I am still single and there is a reason for that. What I do not know, but it is something that I have not learned about myself yet. You can not compare your failures to other people’s accomplishments. Their path of life is not yours, nor will it ever be. Look at the bright side of your own personal life and write those qualities down.
You could have been on the block whored out, slangin’, cracked out, or dead..... As for the men, girl you have to change your perspective. Make better choices. Set your standards up much higher; not with just them but also yourself. In one of my books I write about the virtuous woman, Proverbs 31: 10-31....Until we as woman can live up to that standard of being virtuous, we will not find the mate that God has planned for us. My thing to you girl is, keep ya head up and think about how far you have come. I remember what it used to be like back in the day or ya, and you know what, YOU ARE BLESSED XXXXXXXXX!!!!!!!!
Ya girl,
Shani
Sometimes we forget that our blessing is sitting right in our lap. We may not have the husband, but we got the house. We may not have the children, but we have a slew of nieces and nephews. The list we had written years prior about what kind of man we wanted, house, wedding, etc. may be partially filled. The other portion that you do not have is because there is something that you have not fulfilled within yourself. Be a steward to what you are given. When you’re not, you lose them when you least expect it. Don’t beat yourself up but be glad in all things. It does get lonely, again I know, but a woman opposite of a virtuous woman is idle. When we are idle we gossip, back bite, curse, act like a hater just to cover up the pain. That pain deep down is something we haven’t dealt with yet and are running from. What is your struggle and what is holding you back? Why are you running! Better yet, where are you running to?
Shani
The Word
Now you belong to Christ Jesus. Though you once were far away from God, now you have been brought near to Him because of the blood of Christ.
Ephesians 2:13
God is pleased with you when, for the sake of your conscience, you patiently endure unfair treatment.
I Peter 2:19
Where Have You Been Walking? “As I grew up, I began to realize how easy it is fro women to walk away from what is true, right, and healthy and how easy it is to walk toward what is wrong: wrong man's arm, wrong bar, wrong party.”
Pam Farrel
Father, please be with me as I order my steps. This week has been a struggle and is hard for me. I still find myself running and to where I do not know. You give me all that I can bear, but somewhere deep down I am still missing something and the hunger and pain are both, at times, too strong. Guide my words and my hands so that they may bless someone this week. Thank you for what You have given me thus far. Amen.
As I learn and love the Lord, I grow in Him.
I wanted to start this blog with a letter I sent a neighborhood friend awhile back. We were discussing how it is difficult being are age and still single. She was complaining that women, she felt who had men and did not deserve them, had more blessings then she. My friend wanted to know what it was she had been doing wrong. Only she could answer that (even if I did know the answer it was not for me to judge or bring it to her attention). Each persons walk through life is meant for them. The steps they take can either bring them closer to the Lord or push them further away; that is until He wakes them up and pulls them into His loving arms.
I am not going to lie; you know they say birds of a feather flock together. I used to feel the same way she did about being single. How come I do not have a man and why is it that all of these other people have someone to be with, the children, the cars, the home and I am sitting here all alone writing stories (ones that I wish were my reality). We have all been there, hating on a sister that’s got a man. Better yet, some women try to
take the man away from a good marriage just to get even. Honestly who are they getting even with, an ex, themselves, or the Lord?
I kept her name private but the words hit home today.
XXXXXXXX,
Let me say a little something..... I am still single and there is a reason for that. What I do not know, but it is something that I have not learned about myself yet. You can not compare your failures to other people’s accomplishments. Their path of life is not yours, nor will it ever be. Look at the bright side of your own personal life and write those qualities down.
You could have been on the block whored out, slangin’, cracked out, or dead..... As for the men, girl you have to change your perspective. Make better choices. Set your standards up much higher; not with just them but also yourself. In one of my books I write about the virtuous woman, Proverbs 31: 10-31....Until we as woman can live up to that standard of being virtuous, we will not find the mate that God has planned for us. My thing to you girl is, keep ya head up and think about how far you have come. I remember what it used to be like back in the day or ya, and you know what, YOU ARE BLESSED XXXXXXXXX!!!!!!!!
Ya girl,
Shani
Sometimes we forget that our blessing is sitting right in our lap. We may not have the husband, but we got the house. We may not have the children, but we have a slew of nieces and nephews. The list we had written years prior about what kind of man we wanted, house, wedding, etc. may be partially filled. The other portion that you do not have is because there is something that you have not fulfilled within yourself. Be a steward to what you are given. When you’re not, you lose them when you least expect it. Don’t beat yourself up but be glad in all things. It does get lonely, again I know, but a woman opposite of a virtuous woman is idle. When we are idle we gossip, back bite, curse, act like a hater just to cover up the pain. That pain deep down is something we haven’t dealt with yet and are running from. What is your struggle and what is holding you back? Why are you running! Better yet, where are you running to?
Shani
The Word
Now you belong to Christ Jesus. Though you once were far away from God, now you have been brought near to Him because of the blood of Christ.
Ephesians 2:13
God is pleased with you when, for the sake of your conscience, you patiently endure unfair treatment.
I Peter 2:19
