What Hinders the Communication Between Black Men and Black Women???????
I had a very interesting discussion with my best friend a month ago about mending the communication gap between black men and black women. The conversation was great and it left me a few questions.
Why is it that black men and black women cannot be OPEN and HONEST about the issues that concern them the most? Why does the discussion start off good but then end up in a argument, where most times feeling get hurt?
What is the problem people? As a woman I know why black women are angry and I know being a black man in America is not easy for the brothers. BUT I would like to know what are we as a people really angry about and who are we really angry at?
As a balck woman, i am not angry but I am very confused as to how a black man could turn his back on black women who have helped to hold up his arms in times of HIS need. They have prayed, fasted, took care of their kids, some have even put up houses and lands as bail for brothers who got locked up and the first chance they get they turn their backs on the very ones who filled in the gap when they as a man could not or would not be the man they were called to be.
As a child of God and as a black woman I have to ask what's up with that and how can we better communicate with each other and understand each other better?
Your thoughts????????
Cassandra Carter
Why is it that black men and black women cannot be OPEN and HONEST about the issues that concern them the most? Why does the discussion start off good but then end up in a argument, where most times feeling get hurt?
What is the problem people? As a woman I know why black women are angry and I know being a black man in America is not easy for the brothers. BUT I would like to know what are we as a people really angry about and who are we really angry at?
As a balck woman, i am not angry but I am very confused as to how a black man could turn his back on black women who have helped to hold up his arms in times of HIS need. They have prayed, fasted, took care of their kids, some have even put up houses and lands as bail for brothers who got locked up and the first chance they get they turn their backs on the very ones who filled in the gap when they as a man could not or would not be the man they were called to be.
As a child of God and as a black woman I have to ask what's up with that and how can we better communicate with each other and understand each other better?
Your thoughts????????
Cassandra Carter
..."BUT I would like to know what are we as a people really angry about and who are we really angry at?"...
I've had the opportunity to date the brothers before marrying out of my ethnic group & most of the complaints that I got was they were angry "at the man" and angry with "system of laws" that allowed "the man" to disrespect and disregard them as equals.
Sisters tend to be angry about a whole array of issues, but the biggest problem is lack of emotional and social support from the brothers. We feel that we are "handling" to much and would like to relax every once in a while with our men, but this is difficult for a man to do when he's feeling less than a man on the home front and on the work front.
I think we all should be very understanding of what both Black men and women are faced with so that we can make a haven for one another. Having said that, I think it is important that we sisters not fall for "Mainstream America's" vision of their men with White collar jobs and start looking at the hard working blue collar brothers who might not look like Denzel Washington; the brother knows what a family is and how to build a home with his woman. That's what we need to be looking at then we probably wouldn't be so frustrated, because we know we are coming home to something good. It's frustrating coming home to an empty pillow when you've had a hard time on the job and there's no one there who you can relate to and release with.