How to Attract Your Perfect Mate
3 Tips to Attract Your Perfect Mate
This is a common question that I get frequently. Usually, the conversation begins with a woman expressing concern that she is not meeting the quality of man she would like to be with. Or, she may say that she is not meeting any men at all. The latter is not usually true, but it has to do with the eyes she is looking through. (Another subject for another day).
In the search for your Perfect Mate, it may be helpful to remember that we attract people and circumstances to us that reflect our mindset about relationships, baggage from other people we have been involved with, and our fears and vulnerabilities from childhood.
Here are a few things to keep in mind along your journey:
Be Clear, Very Clear -- not only about who you would like to have in your life, but also you have to be clear about who you are, and what you really are willing to contribute to the relationship. It is always our own job to clean up our acts, and be willing to bring as much happiness as we want to receive.
Vulnerability Factor -- Are you really willing to be emotionally vulnerable and trusting with another person? How are you at releasing or sharing control of the details of your life? Do you like to have other people in your space? What about all up in your emotional space, asking deep questions? Are you able to tell the truth about uncomfortable things in your life? This is not easy stuff for most people, and the Vulnerability Factor often stops people dead in their tracks from having truly meaningful relationships. As a result, most people only have surface relationships which break under pressure. This leads me to my third tip…
Relationships Will Rock Your World -- Know that relationships will challenge you at all levels of your being. I teach that this is the true purpose of relationships, to help us toward growth and maturity. Of course love, passion and romance are in there too, but really from a spiritual perspective, the universe uses relationships to propel us forward into emotional places we would otherwise not likely go. Think about a couple of your previous relationships, or consider your current one, and think about the ways in which you felt pushed, challenged, annoyed, and maybe even angered, and in ways that no one else could reach you. Also, think of the depth of emotions you experienced, the feeling of falling in love, being totally distracted by thoughts of the other person. EXACTLY! Relationships get your attention and put you into emotional places that spill out into every other area of your life. That’s the way it is supposed to be!
I’ll wrap up by saying that these are just a few things I help clients move through. Most people have challenges in these areas, so don’t worry if you felt I touched a nerve. It’s not just you, it’s everybody. It’s just that not everybody will take action toward healing even when they want their perfect partner more than anything.
If this is you, and you feel stuck, get in touch…
www.drdarnise.com
This is a common question that I get frequently. Usually, the conversation begins with a woman expressing concern that she is not meeting the quality of man she would like to be with. Or, she may say that she is not meeting any men at all. The latter is not usually true, but it has to do with the eyes she is looking through. (Another subject for another day).
In the search for your Perfect Mate, it may be helpful to remember that we attract people and circumstances to us that reflect our mindset about relationships, baggage from other people we have been involved with, and our fears and vulnerabilities from childhood.
Here are a few things to keep in mind along your journey:
Be Clear, Very Clear -- not only about who you would like to have in your life, but also you have to be clear about who you are, and what you really are willing to contribute to the relationship. It is always our own job to clean up our acts, and be willing to bring as much happiness as we want to receive.
Vulnerability Factor -- Are you really willing to be emotionally vulnerable and trusting with another person? How are you at releasing or sharing control of the details of your life? Do you like to have other people in your space? What about all up in your emotional space, asking deep questions? Are you able to tell the truth about uncomfortable things in your life? This is not easy stuff for most people, and the Vulnerability Factor often stops people dead in their tracks from having truly meaningful relationships. As a result, most people only have surface relationships which break under pressure. This leads me to my third tip…
Relationships Will Rock Your World -- Know that relationships will challenge you at all levels of your being. I teach that this is the true purpose of relationships, to help us toward growth and maturity. Of course love, passion and romance are in there too, but really from a spiritual perspective, the universe uses relationships to propel us forward into emotional places we would otherwise not likely go. Think about a couple of your previous relationships, or consider your current one, and think about the ways in which you felt pushed, challenged, annoyed, and maybe even angered, and in ways that no one else could reach you. Also, think of the depth of emotions you experienced, the feeling of falling in love, being totally distracted by thoughts of the other person. EXACTLY! Relationships get your attention and put you into emotional places that spill out into every other area of your life. That’s the way it is supposed to be!
I’ll wrap up by saying that these are just a few things I help clients move through. Most people have challenges in these areas, so don’t worry if you felt I touched a nerve. It’s not just you, it’s everybody. It’s just that not everybody will take action toward healing even when they want their perfect partner more than anything.
If this is you, and you feel stuck, get in touch…
www.drdarnise.com
