A Six Step Process to Changing the Energy Around You
So you say you want to free your life of the people that bring you unwarranted energy but you just don’t feel like you have the strength to go cold turkey?
Here are 6 keys steps to dismissing the negative entities in your life and keeping them out!
Step 1) Praise yourself for identifying the issue and having the desire to change it:
• The first step is recognizing that something needs to be done. Until you admit that something could be better, nothing will change.
Step 2) Realize that aspiration without action is dead:
• Becoming conscious of the fact that something needs to be altered in your life is only a small portion of the journey, now you must take action!
Step 3) When dealing with a possible positive energy sucker monitor how you feel when in contact with them:
• If the feeling is not one that you enjoy, in that very moment realize and remind yourself that the only person you can change is You! (So you thought this was going to be about them huh? Not!)
o We mustn’t attempt to place our personal preferences and guidelines on other people and try to change how they communicate. We can only control how we react to their communication via our emotions.
Step 4) Decide how much of your time and energy you plan to give the person:
• When you give your time to another person whether they are giving off positive or negative energy, you are a volunteer, not a victim. In this process of change, decide how much of your time you are going to devote to this person.
• Is this a person that you are mandated to deal with? Why not allot them a specified amount of time for your attention; once their time runs out, it’s gone until the next meeting.
• Pay attention to yourself while in contact and once you have reached your predetermined amount of time or if you do not like how you’re feeling during the communication, politely exit from their atmosphere by any means necessary
Step 5) After your exit, take a moment to analyze and classify your feeling:
• Are you angry? Are you afraid? Are you emotionally hurt?
• Sometimes the way we are feeling in response to a communication “gone wrong” has nothing to do with that particular exchange. Occasionally our current emotions tap into an unfavorable experience from our past and we automatically relate it to our present.
• If we didn’t truly heal, we get defensive or we feel the same pain we felt in our past. We instinctually want to protect ourselves and our emotions, not realizing that the present feeling is not rooted from our current conversation or circumstance.
• If this is the case, you must do what it takes to deal and heal from the past pain. Pinpoint where the hurt or anger (both are rooted from fear but that’s another blog) came from and figure out how to heal from it so you can move on from it.
• Understand that forgiveness is normally the key element to healing from past emotional pain.
• If your feeling does not come from something old, you are still solely responsible for comprehending why you are feeling the way you do. Do not blame another person for your emotions because they are just that, your emotions.
• Take some time to yourself, analyze, discover the real cause of your emotions and begin your healing process!
Step 6) After all of your self analysis, nothing has changed:
• Decrease the time you have chosen to communicate with them until you can master your undesired emotional responses.
• If you find that mastering your emotions is close to impossible when dealing with the person, it is time to make a decision about this person’s presence in your life. If you decide to move on, remain consistent in your decision.
• If you have to deal with this person and deleting them from your life is not an option, return to step 2 until you have learned how to master your emotions.
Now…I am sure you noticed that every step in this process is about YOU and that is because every emotion you experience is within you and not any other person. We determine our emotions and our reactions to other people. The only way you can change ill-favored emotions is to first heal and then modify how you see things. If you continue to live unhealed you will persist to have displeasing energy and unpleasant experiences in your life no matter who you correspond with.
Notice that this is a process; anything that is going to last requires practice and time. Immediate results are desired of course but might not be realistic. Be patient with yourself.
If you find that you have to return to Step 2 several times, that’s a strong indicator that either you don’t want change, you want change but you’re not ready to work for it or you’re insane because you believe that you can do the same thing over and over and get different results. Visit your nearest therapist ♥
Until next time and with much Love,
Tiffany Michellé
Want to know more about Tiffany Michellé? Visit http://literarythought.com or visit my personal blog @ http://myliterarythoughts.blogspot.com
Here are 6 keys steps to dismissing the negative entities in your life and keeping them out!
Step 1) Praise yourself for identifying the issue and having the desire to change it:
• The first step is recognizing that something needs to be done. Until you admit that something could be better, nothing will change.
Step 2) Realize that aspiration without action is dead:
• Becoming conscious of the fact that something needs to be altered in your life is only a small portion of the journey, now you must take action!
Step 3) When dealing with a possible positive energy sucker monitor how you feel when in contact with them:
• If the feeling is not one that you enjoy, in that very moment realize and remind yourself that the only person you can change is You! (So you thought this was going to be about them huh? Not!)
o We mustn’t attempt to place our personal preferences and guidelines on other people and try to change how they communicate. We can only control how we react to their communication via our emotions.
Step 4) Decide how much of your time and energy you plan to give the person:
• When you give your time to another person whether they are giving off positive or negative energy, you are a volunteer, not a victim. In this process of change, decide how much of your time you are going to devote to this person.
• Is this a person that you are mandated to deal with? Why not allot them a specified amount of time for your attention; once their time runs out, it’s gone until the next meeting.
• Pay attention to yourself while in contact and once you have reached your predetermined amount of time or if you do not like how you’re feeling during the communication, politely exit from their atmosphere by any means necessary
Step 5) After your exit, take a moment to analyze and classify your feeling:
• Are you angry? Are you afraid? Are you emotionally hurt?
• Sometimes the way we are feeling in response to a communication “gone wrong” has nothing to do with that particular exchange. Occasionally our current emotions tap into an unfavorable experience from our past and we automatically relate it to our present.
• If we didn’t truly heal, we get defensive or we feel the same pain we felt in our past. We instinctually want to protect ourselves and our emotions, not realizing that the present feeling is not rooted from our current conversation or circumstance.
• If this is the case, you must do what it takes to deal and heal from the past pain. Pinpoint where the hurt or anger (both are rooted from fear but that’s another blog) came from and figure out how to heal from it so you can move on from it.
• Understand that forgiveness is normally the key element to healing from past emotional pain.
• If your feeling does not come from something old, you are still solely responsible for comprehending why you are feeling the way you do. Do not blame another person for your emotions because they are just that, your emotions.
• Take some time to yourself, analyze, discover the real cause of your emotions and begin your healing process!
Step 6) After all of your self analysis, nothing has changed:
• Decrease the time you have chosen to communicate with them until you can master your undesired emotional responses.
• If you find that mastering your emotions is close to impossible when dealing with the person, it is time to make a decision about this person’s presence in your life. If you decide to move on, remain consistent in your decision.
• If you have to deal with this person and deleting them from your life is not an option, return to step 2 until you have learned how to master your emotions.
Now…I am sure you noticed that every step in this process is about YOU and that is because every emotion you experience is within you and not any other person. We determine our emotions and our reactions to other people. The only way you can change ill-favored emotions is to first heal and then modify how you see things. If you continue to live unhealed you will persist to have displeasing energy and unpleasant experiences in your life no matter who you correspond with.
Notice that this is a process; anything that is going to last requires practice and time. Immediate results are desired of course but might not be realistic. Be patient with yourself.
If you find that you have to return to Step 2 several times, that’s a strong indicator that either you don’t want change, you want change but you’re not ready to work for it or you’re insane because you believe that you can do the same thing over and over and get different results. Visit your nearest therapist ♥
Until next time and with much Love,
Tiffany Michellé
Want to know more about Tiffany Michellé? Visit http://literarythought.com or visit my personal blog @ http://myliterarythoughts.blogspot.com
