Are you living by design or by default?
In my past life, I lived by default. I allowed life to guide me instead of guiding my life where I wanted it to go. I permitted the opinions and judgments of other people to dictate my actions and my emotions, whether they were family members that I admire, significant others or particular people I worked with. I have always been a “go getter,” so to speak but I was also a conformist in regard to my “go-getting.” I did what mostly all of us do; I graduated from high school, attended college, graduated and so on. I did what my family and society wanted me to do. I did what was expected of me. I never asked why, to me that was not an option. In addition, I never asked myself what I truly desired for my life. I even began writing by default, but later realized it was truly mine by design.
Does this behavior sound/feel familiar to you? Can you honestly say that you are living out your dreams or are you just going with the flow, and doing what’s expected of you? Do you know why you exist in this world, have you any idea what your purpose is, do you feel as if you are without purpose or does it not matter to you?
Why are we so afraid? A lot of us are terrified at the thought of going against the grain. We are scared to break the mold; we often neglect to try something different. We hold our dreams and our desires within us tucked away, only letting them out when we think no one is looking. We feel that if we do something dissimilar, other than what the people around us expect us to do, we will lose them or their love and support. But let me ask you this: If someone does not support you in finding true happiness within yourself, can you really say that they love you appropriately? Or are they attempting to put their selfish desires on us instead of allowing us to be free and to live within our wants and desires? Let’s be real with ourselves here. We might say that we are free but just because we cannot see the chains doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. Think about it, are you allowing your life to be bound by the requirements of others? (Hmmm, I got you thinking huh? Well I hope so…)
The great thing about life is that it is YOUR life so if you would rather just go with the flow, you can do that,”no worries.” But if you have even a minuscule desire to make a difference in your life and in the lives of others, you must first take responsibility for your life. It all starts with one decision and that decision is to live by design instead of living by default. If you wish to make even the smallest mark on this world before your last earthly transmission, you must decide to seek within yourself in order to discover your purpose. Believe or not, everyone has a purpose. Everything happens for a reason, including your existence on this Earth. Your life is a blessing, no matter who you are, no matter your skin color, your age, your s*xuality, your gender or your profession. You matter!
As for myself, nowadays I am a realized woman, I understand who I am, I understand my purpose, I understand that I am the decider of what takes place in my life and I understand that the possibilities are endless and therefore there are no limitations to what I can do, who I can be and what I can have. I am a forward thinker. I plan my moves strategically in my head; I make my desires become real in my mind so that they can transpire in my physical reality. I live with a renewed mind and by a destiny that is mine and in everything I do, I do it by design!
Until next time,
Tiffany Michellé
http://myliterarythoughts.blogspot.com/
http://literarythought.com
Does this behavior sound/feel familiar to you? Can you honestly say that you are living out your dreams or are you just going with the flow, and doing what’s expected of you? Do you know why you exist in this world, have you any idea what your purpose is, do you feel as if you are without purpose or does it not matter to you?
Why are we so afraid? A lot of us are terrified at the thought of going against the grain. We are scared to break the mold; we often neglect to try something different. We hold our dreams and our desires within us tucked away, only letting them out when we think no one is looking. We feel that if we do something dissimilar, other than what the people around us expect us to do, we will lose them or their love and support. But let me ask you this: If someone does not support you in finding true happiness within yourself, can you really say that they love you appropriately? Or are they attempting to put their selfish desires on us instead of allowing us to be free and to live within our wants and desires? Let’s be real with ourselves here. We might say that we are free but just because we cannot see the chains doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. Think about it, are you allowing your life to be bound by the requirements of others? (Hmmm, I got you thinking huh? Well I hope so…)
The great thing about life is that it is YOUR life so if you would rather just go with the flow, you can do that,”no worries.” But if you have even a minuscule desire to make a difference in your life and in the lives of others, you must first take responsibility for your life. It all starts with one decision and that decision is to live by design instead of living by default. If you wish to make even the smallest mark on this world before your last earthly transmission, you must decide to seek within yourself in order to discover your purpose. Believe or not, everyone has a purpose. Everything happens for a reason, including your existence on this Earth. Your life is a blessing, no matter who you are, no matter your skin color, your age, your s*xuality, your gender or your profession. You matter!
As for myself, nowadays I am a realized woman, I understand who I am, I understand my purpose, I understand that I am the decider of what takes place in my life and I understand that the possibilities are endless and therefore there are no limitations to what I can do, who I can be and what I can have. I am a forward thinker. I plan my moves strategically in my head; I make my desires become real in my mind so that they can transpire in my physical reality. I live with a renewed mind and by a destiny that is mine and in everything I do, I do it by design!
Until next time,
Tiffany Michellé
http://myliterarythoughts.blogspot.com/
http://literarythought.com
