Baby Daddy!
Where do I begin? I am a proud parent of my 3 beautiful children and I try my best to make sure they don't go without. However, my biggest obstacle is trying to make a father be an active parent. I have done everything from opening my home, my suggestions, my heart, and my concerns. I have gone far and beyond the call of duty. I'm just at the point now where I'm fed up. He never seem to put any energy into my children. I put more energy into him trying to make him call and see my kids. He has lied and really hurt my kids by letting them down. Its a lot of emotional turmoil. I believe forcing him to be an active parent may cause more harm than good. So I wash my hands of the situation and I will no longer pacify his issues and making his absence ok. I am determined to be the best mother that I can possibly be and rely on family and God for support. Maybe my children will be molded better by his absence than his negative presence anyway...
Just a couple of items I noticed... first you cannot "make a father an active parent"... there is no such thing. You cannot make another human being do anything... you can only change yourself. Lastly, I hope you are not talking about him in their prescence that is not appropriate. Handle your past relationship with him privately, but his relationship with the children are theirs alone. I went through this in my own life and I did not appreciate my mom talking about my dad in front of me regardless that I KNEW he was not a good dad. Dont end up in that situation because you will live to regret it later in life.