Parental Advisory-Part ONE
This may make a few folks mad…but I don’t really care. I’ve seen too many disturbing things happen to so many children to stay silent any longer. This note is to parents! All types of parents, single, married, seperated, divorced…you get the point!
PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN!!! Protect your daughters AND your sons. Pedophiles DO exist and they prey on your children…yes, YOUR children. First, get out of that mindset of ‘It can’t happen to me or my child’ WRONG! It can happen to you or you child, and it already may have! 9 times out of 10, it’s someone we know, and one of the reasons it happens to so many is that you may be in love with this person, related to this person or they’re a very close friend…but YES, these people do exist and they live among us. Sometimes love blinds us to the things that we should be noticing. You need to pay attention to how your child acts around all types of people in your life. Be aware of significant changes in attitude or stand-offish behavior…please don’t be stupid…keep your eyes wide open…don’t turn that blind eye. There are people who know that things aren’t right and instead of prtotecting their child they ‘turn a blind eye’. Do not put anyone above your child, God has placed that child with you because He means for you to protect and guide them until they are able to do so themselves. Please talk to your children! Here are a few things for you to look out for:
Health/emotional changes
Has nightmares or other sleep problems without an explanation. Seems distracted or distant at odd times. Has a sudden change in eating habits Refuses to eat Loses or drastically increases appetite Has trouble swallowing. Sudden mood swings: rage, fear, insecurity or withdrawal. Leaves “clues” that seem likely to provoke a discussion about s*xual issues. Complains of stomach illness without reason. Writes, draws, plays or dreams of s*xual or frightening images. An older child behaving like a younger child, such as bed-wetting or thumb sucking. *Note: some of the behaviors listed may come from other reasons such as a death in family, or other loss. So pay close attention to what’s going on in your childs life!
Interactions with people
Develops new or unusual fear of certain people or places. Refuses to talk about a secret shared with an adult or older child. Talks about a new older friend. Suddenly has money, toys or other gifts without reason.
s*xual behaviors or self image
Has new words for private body parts. Resists removing clothes when appropriate to do so:
Bath time, bed time Toileting, diapering Exhibits adult-like s*xual behaviors, language and knowledge: With other children With toys Asks other children to behave s*xually. Engages in self destructive behaviors: Cutting, burning, inadequate personal hygiene Drug and alcohol abuse s*xual promiscuity Running away from home. Thinks of self or body as repulsive, dirty or bad.
All types of things happen to children. Too many times they won’t and don’t talk about it, simply because they don’t know if they can talk to you or anyone about these types of things. I know, I know! I can hear a few of you thinking to yourselves, ‘My child knows he/she can talk to me about anything, at any time.’ WRONG again! Some things, especially with these types of sensitive subjects, these issues are uncomfortable and embarrassing. The child may also feel shameful or at fault. They may not talk to you, or anyone else, or they may not know how to say it or bring it up. So what can you do? Well, this is where you come in at. Whether you suspect it or not…TALK TO YOUR CHILD! Have a serious discussion, depending on the age of the child you may have to do a good touch, bad touch scenario, but however you say it, don’t make the child feel uncomfortable about coming to you should anything like this happen. And remember, they won’t talk to you if they don’t trust you!
PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN!!! Protect your daughters AND your sons. Pedophiles DO exist and they prey on your children…yes, YOUR children. First, get out of that mindset of ‘It can’t happen to me or my child’ WRONG! It can happen to you or you child, and it already may have! 9 times out of 10, it’s someone we know, and one of the reasons it happens to so many is that you may be in love with this person, related to this person or they’re a very close friend…but YES, these people do exist and they live among us. Sometimes love blinds us to the things that we should be noticing. You need to pay attention to how your child acts around all types of people in your life. Be aware of significant changes in attitude or stand-offish behavior…please don’t be stupid…keep your eyes wide open…don’t turn that blind eye. There are people who know that things aren’t right and instead of prtotecting their child they ‘turn a blind eye’. Do not put anyone above your child, God has placed that child with you because He means for you to protect and guide them until they are able to do so themselves. Please talk to your children! Here are a few things for you to look out for:
Health/emotional changes
Has nightmares or other sleep problems without an explanation. Seems distracted or distant at odd times. Has a sudden change in eating habits Refuses to eat Loses or drastically increases appetite Has trouble swallowing. Sudden mood swings: rage, fear, insecurity or withdrawal. Leaves “clues” that seem likely to provoke a discussion about s*xual issues. Complains of stomach illness without reason. Writes, draws, plays or dreams of s*xual or frightening images. An older child behaving like a younger child, such as bed-wetting or thumb sucking. *Note: some of the behaviors listed may come from other reasons such as a death in family, or other loss. So pay close attention to what’s going on in your childs life!
Interactions with people
Develops new or unusual fear of certain people or places. Refuses to talk about a secret shared with an adult or older child. Talks about a new older friend. Suddenly has money, toys or other gifts without reason.
s*xual behaviors or self image
Has new words for private body parts. Resists removing clothes when appropriate to do so:
Bath time, bed time Toileting, diapering Exhibits adult-like s*xual behaviors, language and knowledge: With other children With toys Asks other children to behave s*xually. Engages in self destructive behaviors: Cutting, burning, inadequate personal hygiene Drug and alcohol abuse s*xual promiscuity Running away from home. Thinks of self or body as repulsive, dirty or bad.
All types of things happen to children. Too many times they won’t and don’t talk about it, simply because they don’t know if they can talk to you or anyone about these types of things. I know, I know! I can hear a few of you thinking to yourselves, ‘My child knows he/she can talk to me about anything, at any time.’ WRONG again! Some things, especially with these types of sensitive subjects, these issues are uncomfortable and embarrassing. The child may also feel shameful or at fault. They may not talk to you, or anyone else, or they may not know how to say it or bring it up. So what can you do? Well, this is where you come in at. Whether you suspect it or not…TALK TO YOUR CHILD! Have a serious discussion, depending on the age of the child you may have to do a good touch, bad touch scenario, but however you say it, don’t make the child feel uncomfortable about coming to you should anything like this happen. And remember, they won’t talk to you if they don’t trust you!
AMEN!