The Married Mom’s Guide to Life Balance: What to Do When You’re Feeling Stressed (360 hits)
BY: Tiya Cunningham-Sumter - 14 Nov '13 | inspiration Black and Married With Kids.com A Positive Image of Marriage and Family
I have spent the last couple of weeks feeling slightly overwhelmed. I hope it doesn’t come across as complaining, because I am grateful for every opportunity that has come my way. The idea of juggling it all is what I’m currently tackling.
I wear many different hats in my life. I am a wife, mother, Life and Relationship Coach, Job-Readiness Trainer, Director of Marriage Ministry at my church, and a part-time writer/blogger. Whew, I get tired just typing it all. As you can guess, some days are better than others.
Over these last few weeks I have taken on an extra assignment at work. It’s one I’m extremely passionate about, that actually encompasses all I want to do in my career. With that, however, has come a little stress that I didn’t expect and extra time I hadn’t considered. It’s caused me to bring work home and take a little time away from my family. Although I feel the pressure at times, I am confident that it will all get done, and I will be successful.
Now I know for sure I’m not the only woman with multiple titles who feels the burn at times. To all my other busy married, mommy professionals, it can be done, we just can’t forget the following:
Know your limits.
While we should strive and push ourselves, we must be aware of when it’s feeling like too much. When we do experience those feelings, it’s beneficial to stop and regroup.
Know when to say “NO”.
We can’t always get everything on our plates. Unfortunately, we are sometimes going to have to disappoint others by saying no. Trust me when I say, they will understand.
We also have to be mindful of over-promising, it’s okay to tell someone let me check my schedule and get back to you.
Make sure you are getting spiritually fed.
My relationship with God is what keeps me focused. Our talks remind me that I’m more than a conqueror.
Lean on your spouse.
One of the great qualities of a healthy marriage is the support. We have to be honest with our husbands about what we need and how they can best support us.
Take a little time to enjoy!
We only have this one life and there has to be some time to enjoy it. All work and no play will definitely lead to future regrets.
Although we chose each of these roles, we still have to acknowledge when we are feeling challenged. It won’t always be easy, but it won’t always be difficult either if we make sure to do a little of the above.
Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and a Career Coach/Trainer. She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya was recently featured in Ebony Magazine and on the Michael Baisden Show. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two children. For more of Tiya's life and love wisdom, visit her weekly blog at www.notyouraverageadvice.com.
