Increasing Intimacy in Your Marriage; Make Time for Some Good Love! (365 hits)
BY: Tiya Cunningham-Sumter - 15 Jul '13 | Marriage Black and Married With Kid.com A Positive Image of Marriage and Family
When I was in about the 6th grade my class put on, what I thought back then, was an awesome play. I can’t remember all of the details, but what I do remember was the song we all sang at the end, “What the world needs now is love”. It was the first time I had heard the lyrics, but I loved it from the very beginning. I find myself thinking of those lyrics almost every time I listen to or read the news. In fact, in my morning prayers I ask that God allows love to spread.
Times have changed, people are more depressed and stressed than ever before and we just seem to be missing LOVE. Love begins at home, if it’s missing there, we’re really in trouble. My calling is to assist couples in creating and maintaining a relationship they can get excited about. But it isn’t always easy with all that couples typically juggle everyday; especially when raising children.
As a result of that juggling act, marriage and romance sometime get placed on the back burner when we begin our families. Children add a new dimension to our relationships. They quickly become the priority as each partner puts their all into their parenting role. But even when we become parents, we can’t neglect the romance. Did you know the family structure becomes even stronger the more couples spend some alone time together? A happy mommy and daddy makes everyone else under that roof happy as well. Carve out some time to do a little of the following:
Date one another, creatively.
Date night is a must. Schedule them in advance as well as have them spontaneously. Movies, dinner, clubs for dancing, plays, comedy shows, couples retreats, another couples home just to chill, sporting events, concerts, parks and zoos are all great date ideas. Remember on occasion to think outside the box and do something a little different.
Make love with enthusiasm and do it frequently.
I know the children wear us out. Take a nap if you have to, but make sure to get some frequent loving. Getting adventurous adds a new level of excitement. Try outdoors, at the beach, in a tent in the backyard, or new places in your home.
Communicate with one another, passionately.
Asking your spouse what’s on his/her mind and sharing what’s on yours is good stuff and needs to happen. Make sure to listen attentively. Even physical communication is effective. Sitting in the same space, even if a word hasn’t been shared, is powerful.
Pay attention to your spouse.
Look for things that are new or any changes that have been made and compliment them. Study your spouse, no one should know them better than you.
Yes, we’re busy, but being loved and giving love feels great! It relieves the pressures and stress that come along with living in this world. Make room for it. Not only does it benefit your spouse, it benefits you as well. Do it for you! You deserve all the happiness your heart can hold
BMWK, how do you carve out time for love and romance?
Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and a Career Coach/Trainer. She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya was recently featured in Ebony Magazine and on the Michael Baisden Show. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two children. For more of Tiya's life and love wisdom, visit her weekly blog at www.notyouraverageadvice.com.
Be creative and take the time to appreciate your lover. I just "Skype" my beautiful wife and daughter and sent love notes to them... Despite me being at work, I take the time to tell them I love them and appreciate them....
Soon "Babe Gurl" will be rockin the words elegantly....... our "masterpiece" creation......
Monday, July 15th 2013 at 11:23AM
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