Love is the most beautiful thing in this world, while breakup is the ugliest thing. Breakup results due to some reasons and after that the life of the person changes completely. It is very tough to breakup with the person whom you loved once more than anything in life. The moments you spent with your partner are hard to forget. For some people it may not be very painful, but most of the people get emotional breakdown due to breakup. Some may even feel worthless to live and cannot carry on their normal routine.
If you think that you have done a mistake by breaking up and desire to get your ex back then you have to follow certain things with strong determination. First you have to scrutinize the type of breakup you had, that it is you who broke up or your partner. Then understand where your relationship stands now. You have to decide that you need your ex back at any cost or sacrifice you need to make. You have to change your attitude and behavior. Show that you are not at all affected by the breakup. Such a behavior will make your ex think about you as he too would have been a little affected by the breakup. But seeing you unaffected and happy will force your to think and attract him towards you. This will not allow your ex to forget you easily.
It may require a lot of patience to get your ex back in your life but you need to be patient. First of all let all the issues regarding your breakup rest. Don’t take any step until it settles every thing between both of you. Have knowledge about what is happening in your ex’s life. There may be instances where your ex will be yearning some reconciliation or mental support. You just have to find out ways to guide your ex during his bad times and show some attitude of leadership. There will be events such as social gatherings or any parties where you will be meeting your ex. Work on your looks, your dress and hair style as you need to grab the attention of your ex. You have to look calm and happy during his presence. And leave the place in a short time to make him wonder the reason. You have to find such similar ways to draw attention of your ex towards you. This will surely help you to create a soft corner in your ex’s heart.
I don't think going backwards to an ex is progress. There must be extenuating circumstances that would make someone go back to an ex such as there are children involved, the relationship was severed because of interference from others rather than the people themselves, jobs took them in different directions, ect... Although I will not say, "Never say never in such cases"; however, I think one must really think things through before taking a step like this.
While I was down South, I heard that an ex wanted to see me. I said an emphatic NO, because the person was married now, too. Besides that, we were both in high school when we dated. It wasn't serious and HE broke it off with me! Hay to dat...
I have to agree with you regarding your reply. It's better to start a fresh and explore life with someone new. Love feels good when you're starting with someone new.
Ok, I am the "Debbie Downer" on this one. First of all, I feel that love is comparable to a drug use. You have "drug addiction" relationships and you have "maintenance drug" relationships. "Maintenance drug" relationships enhance your health and well being. With drug addiction relationships In the beginning each time you see that person or spend time with that person you feel great and elated (kind of like what I figure taking a drug is like) eventually you plateau. You not longer feel that elated feeling and your emotions stabilize. Eventually your desire to be with that person is just so you can feel "normal". Studies do show that your reaction to someone who love stimulates the same part of your brain that is stimulated if you were to take drugs. I believe most "intense" relationships are drug addiction relationships. Therefore, I think most of the time getting back with an ex is like relapsing into drug addiction.
Tuesday, March 13th 2012 at 10:44PM
Andrea Parker
@ Angela,
That's an interesting way to look at getting back with someone from the past. I think the late Whitney said it best in her interview with Oprah, "He (being Bobby) was my drug". Having said that, love is like a drug and people do go back for another hit. The 90's group Jodeci spoke of it this way in the lyrics to
"Feenin'"
Hit me All the chronic in the world couldn't even mess with you You are the ultimate high You know what i'm saying baby? Now check this out Take my money My house and my cars For one hit of you You can have it all, baby Cause makin love Everytime we do Girl it's worse than drugs Cause i'm an addict over you....
The lyrics say alot of what you alluded to in your comments and I've been there and done that. I think its really important to make sure we 'hook up' with the right person because once our souls connect it can be pretty darn impossible to lick those nasty soul ties. It takes lots of prayer and work to sever these kinds of relationships so once someone is free... Why go back? It's like being in and out of Rehab. It's not easy.
@ Saint, I hear ya! When I finally was free of my addiction, I was able to see clearly and think clearly on who would be right for me based on a set of tangible qualities beyond good love, good looks, etc, .... I would say that you're right in that it takes much more than s*x to make a relationship work however the best thing is what the old folk knew... being able to sit together and plan through agreement via good communication and hard work. I'd say we need to get back to the good ole' days, eh?
