4 Steps To Take When You Know You're Wrong (300 hits)
(BlackDoctor.org) -- There comes a time in every relationship when words start flying. Those times when, in the heat of the argument, you don’t recognize yourself or your partner. Within a matter of seconds you go from zero to sixty and truly show your crazy side, saying and doing things you know you shouldn't and that you know you'll regret later.
After an argument, it doesn’t matter whether you thought you meant what you said or if you admit it was said out of anger. The only thing that matters now is that you know you were wrong and you’re ready to fix the damage you caused.
1. Avoid an On-the-Spot Apology..., the worst thing you can do is spew an apology. An apology should show that you are sorry and that you wholeheartedly and totally know why you need to be sorry. Take time to ponder over your behavior and include your reasons for apologizing in your apology. If you can, tell your partner what you could do better next time. Make every word count and avoid saying “but” and “you made.” These phrases make it appear that you do not take responsibility for your actions.
2. Give your Partner Space and Time. The crazier you acted out, the more time and space you both need to reflect and sort things out separately. Jumping back into things too quickly doesn’t allow your partner enough time to truly evaluate his or her feelings and that is necessary if you want to be forgiven. Not only does time and space help both people heal, but it sets the foundation for a clean slate.
