“African American Females are Least Likely to Get Married” – Are We Going To Keep Taking This Lying Down" (222 hits)

I read in a recent study done comparing the societal trends of minority women in the U.S. that, “African American Females are Least Likely To Get Married” and I became very upset by it.

I couldn’t understand why we were being dubbed as the poster kids for the undesirable? Black women are just as dynamic, beautiful, s*xy, and marriage-able as any other race of women. And, I don’t care what the statistics say. I KNOW that WE are the ONLY ONES who determine whether we will get married or not. We can decide to buy into this belief thus perpetuating these claims or decide that we won’t.

There are all these opinions out there that say, “We’re too picky”, “We’re too bossy”, “We’re too busy trying to be strong black women to let anybody in” but that’s not the case. I agree that black women are among the strongest people in this nation, not because we want to be but because we’ve had to be! No other group of women have had to deal with what black women have had to deal with in this country - racism, s*xism, “You’re too fat-ism”, “You’re too dark-ism”, “You’re hair’s too kinky-ism”, s*xual abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, not to mention, raising 80% of the kids in our communities BY OURSELVES! (This is not a dig at black men. Yes, there are good black men out there supporting their families but they’re not the majority. That’s just truth.)

So, you see, we’re strong because we’ve had to be but even that’s not the problem.
The problem is we don’t know our own power. The problem is we’ve listened too long to the naysayers and absorbed their energy instead of creating our own that propels us to go after and get what we want. We’ve been a very silent minority on just about everything even when it comes to our own happiness!

I decided a few years back that I wasn’t going to be part of this statistic that has us so loveless and I did something about it. At 42, I found a way to beat the odds and I didn’t have to settle or play any games to get a man to marry me. And, now, I’ve been happily married for five years. I want to let other sistahs know that if I can do it, they can do it to.

If you’d like to find out more about my story, I’ve written an eBook detailing the life-changing principles and techniques I discovered that helped me attract my soulmate along with helping me attract other positive things into my life as well. It’s called, “How To Spiritually Attract Your Perfect Mate.” You can check out a FREE preview or download the book at http://lenawilson-claybon.manifestingabund... Thanks for reading my blog and Happy Attracting! Posted By: Lena Wilson-Claybon
Tuesday, May 25th 2010 at 12:21AM
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