4 Things You MUST Do To Attract Your Right Mate (386 hits)

From the time we're old enough to know what `wedding' means, little girls dream of that day when prince charming will come along and whisk us away to a far away place to live happily ever after. At least, that was the fantasy of me and all my little girlfriends. Of course, as we got older, reality set in and we realized the fantasy was just that. Nonetheless, almost every woman by a certain age (it differs for everyone) wants to have found that special guy and settled down. When this doesn't happen by the timeframe we have in our heads, the inner chatter begins. "What's wrong with me?" "Why can't I find someone to love me?" "Why am I choosing the wrong men to date?" I know because I was there not long ago myself. Then, when I reached 40, I became determined to turn things around. I found a process that helped me stop attracting the wrong men and finally attract the right man into my life who later became my husband. If it worked for me, I know it can work for you so here goes:

1) Learn To Attract From The Internal Instead Of The External Before you can ever find YOUR perfect mate, you have to stop judging people by a superficial list of criteria that has nothing to do with the soul. Let's face it, we'd all like to marry a Brad Pitt or Denzel type. Sure, it's a great fantasy but in reality, would that type be right for YOU? Do you want someone whose ego you have to cater to or someone who will cater to yours? In choosing your life mate, the attraction has to be based on things both of you will be able to share long term such as common interests, similar spiritual beliefs, similar family values and personal traits that will compliment your own.

2) Get Rid of Self-Defeating Programming Another thing you must do is get rid of old `programming' that doesn't serve you. If you keep attracting the wrong kind of men, even though, you really want (or need) something different, that means there is subconscious programming within you that says you don't deserve better or that is `stuck' in a place that only allows you to attract those kind of men. The good news is there are various subconscious reprogramming methods on the market but you have to choose the one that works best for you.

3) Set Your Intention I once heard someone say that the difference between `wanting' something and being intent on getting it is, if you've got a job that you don't like but paying your rent is dependent on that job, you may `want' another job but you probably won't leave until you find another one. However, if you get fired from that job, then you become `intent' on finding another job! One involves a non-urgent `wish' factor and the other involves a definite intent to make something happen. Take the `wish' factor out of it and set your intention.

4) Get Active (Not Desperate) About Your Search I know as women in this society, we have been `programmed' to think that it's the men who are suppose to do the hunting. Not only is that an old-fashioned, outdated way to think, but it's also very self-defeating.. That's taking the power out of your hands in finding your right mate and putting it in the hands of some Joe Schmo who comes along that may only have HIS best interest at heart. Don't be afraid to `put yourself out there' if you're serious about finding your right mate.

About The Author: Lena Wilson-Claybon is an inspirational writer and television producer living in Los Angeles with her husband. She is author of the eBook, "How To Spiritually Attract Your Perfect Mate". To get a FREE preview of the eBook or to download it, go to: http://lenawilson-claybon.manifestingabund...
Happy Attracting! Posted By: Lena Wilson-Claybon
Monday, May 17th 2010 at 4:52PM
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