If Only My Daughter Would Use Her Powers For Good (143 hits)

My child down here actually thinks I’m the dumbest thing since the invention of the square wheel. She’s been trying not to do her homework again. The class trip to Clementon Park is in two weeks. I told her that due to her behavior and past lying that if I don’t see her homework planner that she’s not going to be going on this trip. Last week she claimed that she had no homework and just by the way she told me I could tell that she was lying.

Let me first describe to you what the planner looks like. It’s basically a hard covered calendar that looks like a workbook. The kids have plenty of room to write homework and any projects due inside of it. It even has room for the teacher and the Aide to write notes and the parent as well. On the bottom of every left sided page is a place for the teacher’s notes and the parents signature. I’ve been signing at the beginning of each week especially after the whole cheer leading fiasco. On the outside is the child’s name, typed up in red by the teacher on a mailing label and a space inside the cover showing who the book belongs to usually filled in by the kid.

Well guess what this little girl did? She presented “her planner” by folding it to the exact date so that one I couldn’t see the outside, only that page and two so that I wouldn’t go back to check the days last week when she claimed to have no homework. WRONNNNNNNG! Because she “forgot” it last week I hadn’t signed my name, so I went back to check. Not one of my hundreds of signatures was there. Hmmm I thought to myself. So I flip through the book and there’s different handwriting except for the page she opened to. So I flipped again cuz I was tired and maybe I made a mistake. NOPE!! I was right. So just to seal the deal I look at the front cover and this devious little thing wrote her name on the most crooked cut out piece of paper and TAPED it over another little girls name.

I had to take some serious deep breaths because I was spewing fire at this point. When I calmed down, I said ok, I’ll give her a chance to confess. I folded the book back the way she left it on the table for me and then went in her room to ask her if it was her book.

“Maya is this yours?”

“Yes.”

“This is your homework planner?”

“Yeah that’s mine.”

“So then why does it have Cindy’s name inside?”

“Ohhh man, I must have taken her book by mistake.”

Then I close the book exposing the cover, show her the makeshift label obviously created by her, I peel off the crookedly cut taped paper also exposing the real label made by the teacher. Can I tell you I’ve never seen this girl’s eyes pop out like they did when she realized that she was found out. So I say, “So what is this then?”

I hear nothing but crickets chirping!

She then finds her voice and tells me she forgot her book at her dad’s house. Mind you when he picked her up, she dropped off her book bag at our house because he was taking her to stay at a hotel for a night to go swimming (probably to get away from his very fertile older daughter and her multitude of offspring). I reminded her of this and she tells me she took it out so that her and So-and-So could play school. She forgot that she had told me that So-and-So could not go with her and her dad so they went alone. She also didn’t realize that last week she forgot her sneakers at his house and that I had to call him to drop them off on his way to work because she needed them for gym. (I’m exhausted all over again.) I reminded her of this too and the fact that it was now 9:30pm and that he would’ve dropped it off on his way to work tonight! All she could do at this point was cry because she knew what was coming.

I seriously do not know what to do at this point. I’ve tried all of the barganing tricks, I’ve tried super nice mommy and we’ve even done the couseling. I do not think she respects me or cares if I hurt from the crap that she does at all because she wants what she wants (and usually gets it when she’s not with me thanks to her dad) and now I have absolutely no idea where this book is. And to top it off, under the planner was a stack of papers from the teacher. In the stack was her progress report. She went from a B average to a D average. ALL of her grades went down. It was all I could do to keep from crying in front of her while I talked to her.

She wasn’t allowed to go on the trip last year, and I agreed, by the school due to her behaviors and the number of in school detentions she had been given. That was school policy. It actually tore her up and when I picked her up from school the latch key lady told me she was crying for a while because all the kids that went were talking about the trip and it made her sad. What do I do this year? There is absolutely no way that she deserves it and she has not made any attempt to work for it. Should I let her go?

My brain hurts : ( Posted By: Laura Thomas
Wednesday, May 20th 2009 at 3:06AM
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