A question of gloating (1193 hits)

Someone on BWC asked single women to share stories about why they're single. This is after telling a story of man hunting, serial dating, being attracted to the wrong men with the wrong qualities and how she found "Mr. Right". The good stuff.

Doesn't it seem logical, that if a person is genuine about wanting to help other women find "love" that INSTEAD of asking single women why they're still single (code for " testify your imperfections and characater defects to the community so I can gloat and make myself feel good), to ask other married women to share their stories instead?

Wouldn't a "success" story make more sense than a asking other women personal questions and to publically testify what she already deemed was a character flaw and a failure (the act of being a single woman)? Where are some of these people coming from with these 18th century views on marriage and relationships?

It may seem like I'm being mean in posting this, but I get really vexed when I see people trying to make black women out to be these tragically flawed characters who need help and change to be accepted in our society.

Being single is sometimes a choice. Not an imperfection. Being single is sometimes finding that one in a million spiritual partner and for some it might take longer to get there.

Don't be fooled by wolves masquerading in sheep's clothing asking you to air your dirty laundry (if you have any at all).

A person can FEEL all on their own when something in their life is going wrong. They don't need other women standing around trying to guard someone else's ****** or whether someone's legs are open or closed.

I have been celibate for many years but I do not advocate preaching my ways or telling other women what they should or should not do with their bodies. IT is a personal choice.

Follow your mind, follow your spirit and whatever feels innate and natural to you. Posted By:
Tuesday, February 10th 2009 at 4:14PM
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