Are black men intimidated by educated, independent black career women? (391 hits)
Black men always say they want a educated black sister that has her own, but when the situation presents itself we are often taken back. A successful women is great, as long as they are not more successful than us, lol! I don't understand this. The same way I don't understand why black women say they want a educated sincere black male but when they meet these guys they often claim they are "too nice". They would rather a guy that is a little ruff around the edges. Now being from New York and in medical school, I completely understand the perfect combo of an educated guy with edge but females often seem to chase the worst men. What is your take on this ladies?
I just want to say, before I was married i did just that. I think it was the excitement of playing with fire and not really wanting to get burned. I'm thankful that I married a nice guy. My style of living has changed over the years and oh well.... Great article.
Friday, January 23rd 2009 at 9:08PM
Esther Pinkston
Yeah, you were lucky to end up with a nice guy
Friday, January 23rd 2009 at 9:39PM
Nile Morris
Interesting.....
Saturday, January 24th 2009 at 12:04PM
Nile Morris
Hummm..., if people could look past status-quo and value their own self worth, they may develope a sence to be able to reconize what others possess. In this regard, this is why age and what a person has doesn't matter. In doing so you can be able to see beyond the physical as well, and discover whats really important. Basically people like people that are like themselves, what developes after is up to the indiviuals. To me, the objective is to find a Soul Mate, and in order to do that, you have to be able to connect with a spirit that is compatible to yours. No one ever said it was to be an easy task ! However, don't look for love, for love finds you, if you're worthy. Neediness can apply to anyone ! For what is need, but need itself ? Thanks for posting ! Doc
Saturday, January 24th 2009 at 3:31PM
Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D.
Look past status-quo and value your own self worth.....Alot of people need to take that advice. Yo go sista!!
Saturday, January 24th 2009 at 3:37PM
Nile Morris
Honestly, being a young professional black female, I believe I have the sickness you describe, lol. What I have found is I come from the hood and while I have aspirations and determination which have led me beyond the hood, I do relate to what I am used to. Now I have my dad in my life. He happens to be a big 6"1' (210lbs), blue collar truck driver; so for me, the image of my man, is relative to that of my dad and how protective he can be. I wouldn't turn down a white collar guy, just because he appears corny or scrawny, but my perception of how manly he can be is in fact affected by the perception of my dad. Also, a more reserved white collar dude may find me a little too assertive because I learned to "speak softly, but carry a big stick".
I think it is a matter of understanding why we are looking for particular qualities. While opposites do attract at times, we have to be balanced on the personality spectrum.
Saturday, January 24th 2009 at 8:04PM
Lawanna Mackie
My take on this Educated Black Man Or Woman Thing we have to be really ready for each others favor and were God has directed your destiny, also the biggest issue that I see and have had experience in a Failed Marriage of 10 Years is the Lack of Communication and one party has out grown the other , aslo Men like to be in charge and this is ok however Men tend to forget that woman are in control also, there needs to be a balance , Most men are not naturally not tunned with there mates nor themselvels this is a problem ypu need to Love you First before you love someone else 60% of COUPLES get together for all the wrong reason, the bottom line is we have to Love Ourselves FIRST AND STOP WAITING on MR. RIGHT He ain't Coming. Get up and out and keep it Moving and Make things happen for yourself. I Bring more the Eye Liner and Lipstick to the table , so I need more than socks and Tennis Shoes to match me. Much Pray for New Relationships COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION is KEY.
Saturday, January 24th 2009 at 11:01PM
Guest Visitor
Only WEAK men (regardless of color) are intimidated by a woman.
Sunday, February 1st 2009 at 12:08PM
Jen Fad
I agree with most of what has been said. As a young, educated female, whom is developing my professional identity, I meet people and things fizzle out for various reasons. I am accepting of who I am, what I once was, and who I am not, and the other person needs to have a beginning understanding of those same things in order to find a common place. The educated men I have met have had some past emotional scarring, and avoid the educated woman that would be their equal, so they go for those who are not on the same level. It's easier to deal with those that we consciously or subconsciously feel superior too. I could go on forever making comments, especially as a psychologist in training...
Friday, September 4th 2009 at 4:48PM
Courtney McIntosh
