What do you do when HE wont go to church with you! (299 hits)
It's hard when your trying to elevate yourself spriritually, and your SO doesn't understand the difference between a blessing and a coincedence! I know prayer works, but the enemy will sure as heck use people who are close to you , JUST TO GET TO YOU! So other than PRAYER ,what can you do or what do you do! ALSO what do you do when your SO questions your beliefs, because he has a DIFFERENT INTERPRETATION of the bible? We have came across a few converstions where I am defending THE WORD, but I not that well grounded in the word to really go that deep, sometimes I feel , not quite stupid, but maybe dumb-founded, because I can't back anything up that I'm trying to say. All I know is that I love the lord!
Shalonda I know what you mean girl! The best thing you can do is just continue going and try not to share anything, but let your good actions be your testament of what you are learning. Perhaps your good deed will lead your S.O. to want to go one of these days. If not, don't worry about it. Just make sure you balance your home life and your church life. Many women make this mistake and end up jeopardizing their family life.
Friday, September 26th 2008 at 2:36PM
Jen Fad
Hey Shalonda, See 1Corinthians7:13-14, It says " And the woman which hath a husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him..For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife..." Also see Proverbs I4:1 " Every wise woman builds up her house, and the foolish plucketh it down with her hands." I share these scriptures, because I think they're relevant to your concerns. Follow 1Corinthians, it talks alot about marriage and howo to deal w/ S.O.s U heard the saying "You can bring a horse to water, but you can't make him drink it?" exactly. In Gods time, your SO will hear the calling. If he doesn't, and you two are still together, seek God on governing this relationship. I know its difficult when 2 people have differing views on religious, and certain other topics. If these differences are too strong, to allow for collaboration on other parts of your life together, then my opinion is that the relationship isn't worth it. It takes work, but all things are possible through christ who strenghthen us.
Be Blessed, Marlene
FYI- I'm still learning my word, and growing closer to him. In answer to your question on what to do, keep praying. He hears and answers the call of the righteous.
Friday, September 26th 2008 at 3:17PM
Marlene R
U mention a different interpretation of the word... and a non beleiver can't interpret what they don't belive in. So maybe getting an understand of where your husband is coming from. I say husband because if this SO you refer too isnt that, why even post the blog, because you open yourself up to the negative Christians that look to condemn rather than help. I as the husband that doesnt go to church with my wife have a clear cut reason as to why I don't go... I don't like the church, the gay choir director, the gay organist, or the stuck up deacons and members that only speak on Sunday. So I'd rather watch it on tv, if my choice only gave me those 2 options. But sit down with your SO and ask him if he would attend with you on a certain Sunday once a month... then as a prize you either take him to breakfast before or dinner after... But I bet there's a rather simple reason why he doesnt go... so ask him, and to be honest if he can approach you in thoses times of need that he has, maybe you should mention a need you have is for him to take interest in something you really want him to do... we men are simple creatures and can be motivated to action with simple things
Friday, September 26th 2008 at 4:15PM
GREGORY GULLEY
I agree with Lisa.
Friday, September 26th 2008 at 6:03PM
Marta Fernandez
..."I don't like the church, the gay choir director, the gay organist, or the stuck up deacons and members that only speak on Sunday. So I'd rather watch it on tv..."
Brother Gulley you got me crying. You are so funny, but I know you aren't trying to humor me. Oh my goodness. lol
Friday, September 26th 2008 at 6:45PM
Jen Fad
S.O. is an abbreviation for significant other Tracye. lol
Saturday, September 27th 2008 at 9:02AM
Jen Fad
We are all meant to be witnesses and examples of the MOST HIGH, your relationship with the SUPREME BEING , is a PERSONAL ONE. No one else can get that for you, nobody else can do it, it is only you ! Whats neccesarily good for the goose, is not always good for the gander. When anyone is going to be judged at the end of their time, you can not pay the wages for them like an overlooked bill that you both created.
Saturday, September 27th 2008 at 10:37AM
Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D.
Each individual is responsible for their own soul. Perhaps by showing Godly examples, you can guide him to the Light .
Saturday, September 27th 2008 at 10:46AM
Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D.
the church my wide wants to attend only meets twice per month and sadly she normally works on those same days... but as many have responded we do what we can to attend and at times i go with her, but for the most part Sunday is the one day I can sleep, and yes i choose to rest when the opportunity presents itself. so I would rather be at home, than "fellowship" with people that will pass me by the other 6 days per week..
Saturday, September 27th 2008 at 12:44PM
GREGORY GULLEY
Might sound harsh, but...Leave Him Alone.
Just like you, he's got to work out his own salvation. If your relationship is good, otherwise this will drive a wedge. Mind you that many "Christians" will say a wedge needs to be driven because "they" will consider ya'll "uneaqually yoked."
I'll pose this question...would you rather have a man sitting next to you every time the church doors open but it's one of the few things that you can say is good with the relationship...Or a man who's got independent thought enough to question what he's not sure about, but can love you just as you are without judgement because you differ on "that?"
There are many people sitting the church together and "sittin" is the only thing they are together on. Be careful from whom you take counsel ;-)
Lovingly, My Sistah! ~Zara "Grown IS s*xy" Green
Saturday, September 27th 2008 at 1:08PM
Zara Green
To leave him , is easier said than done. Give him some kind of timeframe. We all have different levels of spirituality. As I mentioned earlier here, It's an individual quest (mission) to have ,and develope your relationship with God. Even you may still be in the learning process, so don't judge who's to say when. I know, at the end, he's going to have to be responsible for his own actions while he was living ! And you will not be held accountable. Remember, you didn't come into this world with him, even twins have their own spiritual souls and idenity. Peace.
Monday, September 29th 2008 at 9:48AM
Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D.
I know this might sound controversial, but I know a practicing Christian woman who is married to a Muslim man and he has never stepped into a church. They appear to have a good relationship and up until the pastor caused some friction (divide & conquer as they sometimes do when ladies attend church w/o their spouses), the woman's husband didn't prevent her from attending church with their daughter while he took their two sons to the Mosque'. These people are still married and have been for the past 15 or so years.
Please ya'll don't start quoting scripture about being unequally yoked and all that good stuff. I am just bringing a case I know of personally.
Sunday, October 5th 2008 at 11:28AM
Jen Fad
The bible also states you have to save yourself, and I do believe a house cannot stand been unequally yoked and divided...peace & love to the forum
Wednesday, October 8th 2008 at 10:59AM
Beverly Brewer
I agree with this statment below by Lovingly, My Sistah! ~Zara "Grown IS s*xy" Green Posted Saturday, September 27th 2008 at 1:08PM
There are many people sitting the church together and "sittin" is the only thing they are together on. Be careful from whom you take counsel ;-)
How can two walk togethter unless they agree.Say to Wisdom she is my sister and to Knowlegde she is my kinswomen.Wisdom is a perfect example of a woman who makes wise and unwavering decisions. Get a bible concordance look up wisdom and meditate on the word of God day and night and she (Wisdom) will never lead you to make the wrong decisions once you walk in submission an obedience to the word of God. This do not mean you won't probably make a mistake but please yeild to the Lord who makes the crooked places straight,and gives us Wisdom librally.And most of all he forgives us and hears our prayer of repentence.
Monday, November 3rd 2008 at 6:59PM
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