Husband wins fight in turning wife against friends and family - true story about Domestic Violence (691 hits)
The names have been change to protect the innocent. Kathy was a beautiful young lady on the inside and out. Nice rich carmel skin, "nice shap," intelligent, popular, athletic, go-getter. She met Morris. Also attractive, but not so intelligent. She fell in love with him. He became her world. He was more important than her own children, her parents (who loves her dearly) and sadly, probably even God. It is said that this is true because of her actions. Morris began to alienate Kathy from her own family. It got so bad, he was able to convince their children that Kathy's parents' and family did not care about them. Kathy even began to believe this herself. This is called brainwashing. She still tries to hold on to her family, but it is a hard battle. She is being pulled both ways. Her children has been raised to keep quiet about the abuse and believe that they cannot trust their family enough to talk to them. Kathy continues to try to be close to one of her sisters. Now hubby has discovered he is haveing a hard time destroying this bind. Guess what his next strategy was. He began to tell Kathy that she should be more like her sister. He began to brag about Kathy's sister in front of her to others and down Kathy whenever he got the oppourtunity. Is it working. YES IT IS! This is sad. Abusers will do this. They take control, the do whatever it takes to pull the victim away from family and friends. They are evil. Victims of DV,please be aware of this. You know your family, and you know deep down that you family will always love you, care about you and be there for you no matter what. Do not allow ANYONE to cause you to turn on your family. This does not mean you should allow others to interfer in your marriage. However, the victim of DV knows what she is going through, she knows that she is being controlled and abused. Get help. Do not turn your back on the very people who will be there for you in the end. Your family, especially your parents love you to death. Talk to a professional, join a support group, get some help immediately. Do not distance yourself from family, this is what the CONTROLLER/ABUSER wants you to do. It gives him more power over your life!!!!
