Why Wait???...When In A Relationship!! (171 hits)

This post is for the ladies that are questioning should they wait for s*x. And the guys that are wondering why should we wait. I hope this is helpful to someone! Please comment!!!!

There are 4 parts to a relationship we have the spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. The physical part is last, so if we have that before the other 3 it makes it very difficult to fully embrace the other parts!
-The spirit man is deprived because not only are we longing to please God (or fill the void that is placed in us, when we're apart from God) but we want our mates to have their voids filled as well. So if there are are unequal spirits that can cause chaos in the spirit realm.
-The mental state is at stake because whenever we encounter a person there are hopes of it being more that just a physical relationship.We will sometimes perceive the relationship as being more than what it is (hence, jealously or territorial behavior).While others are so burried by past hurts, they fix their minds to believe that random encounters are perfectly fine.
-Emotions begin to flare because, by nature, women are emotional beings. We become attached emotionally to the people we encounter and we keep a part of them with us. So not knowingly, we carry something from this past encounter.
-Physical is probably the one everyone loves, but if we do this first how do we bring in the other counterparts of a relationship? Many people try to fix things with the physical part, but then the other parts are not nourished. We all know when something is mal-nourished it can not survive. That is why it's important to develop a healthy relationship with all 4 parts working together. All parts are an act of worship unto God, and they fall in order.
*All relationships come together 1st spiritually...you know we must feel the person out, or we say it's something about that person (it's their spirit! whether good, or bad). 2nd mentally...we have to be stimulated mentally, if our mind is put at rest we begin to feel trapped. So we need someone to respect/support/ or help us create/embrace new ideas. 3rd emotionally...you may not always be on the same accord, but your partner must respect your emotions. They can't just throw your feelings to the side as if you don't matter to them. Not if they really love you! 4th physically...I honestly believe waiting until marriage is best. That way you are not invloved with just anybody and all their issues that they carry. In marriage you enter into a covenant (specified agreement) so you will deal with each other issues. Unless, God has burdened you with the issues of someone else (and at that time pray for the person) we have enough issues of our own. Some have the question of what if the person is not what I expected physically, I think if the spiritual, mental, and emotions are in place the physical will be in place as well. Alot of the time we make it work anyway! Be Blessed!!! Posted By: andramika clark
Tuesday, August 12th 2008 at 3:54PM
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