I had a Lesbian College Roommate. I had understanding after the rain... (3977 hits)
As I work to give us BlackRomance.com 360 I realize I have to get over a hump that is a part of the BlackRomance.com path.
Gay, Lesbian, Homos*xuality, Gender Identification, Transvestites, and the like are titles given to humans to identify their love lives.
As much as I want to think I am not able to relate to the LGQBT lifestyle, that is not the case.
The bottom line is, some people are attracted to the same gender and some are not. Some are attracted to a mixed gender person.
My toughest experience/situation in college was living with a Lesbian. The energy in the room made me feel like my side of the room was Heaven and her side was Hell. She was on the Women's Basketball team and she and I lived on a hall filled with other Women Basketball players.
She went out of her way to be flamboyant. Her friends would lay on dressers in a rebellious manner. She even let her girlfriend and a newborn baby spend nights in our dorm room! She took more than she gave and she just seemed to always be unhappy.
I was so uncomfortable. I would leave Bible quotes on my table. I started going to Bible Study to find peace. It was in my Bible Study meeting where the Holy Spirit was revealed to me. I even spoke in tongues. The message was "It's not about me, it's about him".
I learned from others that my roommates father cheated on her mother. He worked on the campus and the person he cheated with worked at the University. That knowledge made me have compassion and understanding as to why she may have given up on loving men. Even though she was built manly, she still had female genetics
My life was influenced for the better from my experience living with a Lesbian. I understand if I would have tried to talk to my roommate about her lifestyle to better inform myself I could have had a better day to day interaction with her.
Maybe she was dealing with pressure about her identity so it rubbed off onto her atmosphere.
I recommend we take time to get to know those who seem different and we should work to be inclusive........
