It is easy to be a contentious wife. In fact, most of us do it without any effort at all. But if you need some tips on how to be contentious, here are some pointers.
Be argumentative – Proverbs 19:13 ◾Question his decisions ◾Ask his opinion, but do the opposite ◾Sulk if you do not get your way
Irritate your husband – Proverbs 21:19 ◾Do not prefer him ◾Do things that he does not like ◾Treat him with contempt
Make your home an unbearable place to live – Proverbs 25:24 ◾Make it so he would rather be anywhere else ◾Be disrespectful ◾Keep your home in disorder
Nag constantly – Proverbs 27:15 ◾Use an unpleasant tone ◾Criticize him when he does not do something ◾Ask the same thing over and over
On the other hand, it is much harder to be a contented wife. It takes self-control and patience. It requires that you love someone more than you love yourself. If this is the kind of wife that you want to be then you should:
Let your speech be seasoned with grace – Colossians 4:6 ◾If you have concerns with his decisions, wait for an appropriate time and use and appropriate tone ◾Ask his opinion and submit to his desires ◾If you disagree, cheerfully submit
Do your husband good and not evil – Proverbs 31:12 ◾Prefer him ◾Purpose to love him in the way he wants to be loved ◾Treat him with honor
Create a home that is a refuge – Proverbs 31:27 ◾Create an environment that he wants to come home to ◾Treat your husband with respect as the head of the household ◾Keep an orderly home and heart
Use your speech to encourage and edify – 1 Thessalonians 5:11 ◾Use words and tones that uplift and encourage ◾Give grace when he fails or has shortcomings ◾Be patient
When you look over this list, think about what kind of wife you are and what kind of wife you want to be. It is easy to be a contentious wife. It is easy to argue with, irritate, harm, and nag your husband. It takes selfless love and hard work to speak with grace, prefer him, create a refuge, and edify your husband.
very good advice and article. truly hope that ladies will take the time to read and understand. thank you for posting :)
Thursday, July 14th 2016 at 10:59AM
Latasha Watson
