The Lady Is A Leader And She Rises To The Occasion (1715 hits)
The Lady Is A Leader And She Rises To The Occasion June 1, 2016 by The Lady Is A Leader | Edit logo gifJune is the month which is normally filled with celebrations. This is the month where people and things of value tend to either rise to the occasion, or walk in another direction. Graduations, weddings, birthdays are significant when you have experienced just a portion of the afflictions and mishaps which have occurred in my life, so I view each year as another opportunity to show up.
I would like to take this moment to share with you how important it is to show up. Recently I was viewing a television program and the host began to share with the audience the importance of being present, which proposed some really good questions. Such as, have you ever been in a group or an environment filled with people, however, the person whose arrival you expected or anticipated never came?
Have you ever found yourself in a conversation, pouring out your heart to someone, only to receive a response which clearly showed their body was here with you, but their mind was on the other side of town? Instead of a dialogue, you found you were in the midst of a monologue; a solemn, lonely, monologue?
Memories are so real and replay so vividly in moments you least expect it. Because now, you’re a Lady Leader and you are supposed to have grown from the insecurities and the uncertainty of the past. For instance, I gave birth to a son after less than four hours of labor; therefore, I couldn’t understand when women discussed experiencing hours of labor and excruciating pain. I was so naïve. My lack of experience and judgment were both in for a rude awakening! After several devastating miscarriages, we conceived a beautiful baby girl. But, the labor process for this pregnancy was quite different from the previous one; only to have to have a cesarean section, after more than 23 hours of labor, to deliver a premature, yet amazing, baby girl, whom I still did not get to hold or cuddle until 12 hours after her birth.
Walking in a new experience of motherhood also proved to be quite different. The pain associated with a cesarean section for me, was unimaginable. This was coupled with the fact that I had to be re-admitted to the hospital, due to the physical healing process not moving forward as scheduled.
My mother, who was in the primary stages of a terminal illness, did everything she could to assist. My mother-in-love aided and prayed for our family. And, even though their assistance was valuable, I still struggled with feeling inadequate; tears flowing constantly.
It was at this time, my husband taught me a great lesson in how “love shows up”. While employed in an occupation which varied from one shift to the other every week, he gave all he had during this season in my life by hiring what would be known as a Nanny today, who helped me learn to care for a preemie and encouraged me to realize I was not inadequate… I just needed help. And, the right help.
I speak to your heart and to the void of those who didn’t show up. The key phrase I learned and value today: the right help, the Spirit-led help, and the anointed assistance.
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation.
The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
Matthew 26:41
We found those whom we thought would be there for us, were not. Those whom we had allowed into our intimate hearts with conversations and transparency never showed up. Become observant and consistent in prayer, for being in a weak state, physically, spiritually or emotionally may cause you to not make decisions based on wisdom or guidance. I ask you today to be selective and careful with your heart, because when you need love to show up, you don’t need excuses.
In our flesh we may not always “feel” like showing up. But, when it’s authentic, as least for me, the love and care I woman-drivinghave for the individual causes me to command my body to show up! Loyalty has a way of surpassing a headache; overcoming personal feelings. Loyalty is like royalty… it rises to the occasion with grace.
Be mindful, there are emergencies and circumstances beyond our control which may not allow our presence, physically or emotionally. But if that’s not the case, as a Lady Leader, consider the value, the gift that you are, and the love that you possess, and Show Up!
Walking in Power,
Dr. BJ Relefourd
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