Chances are you didn't wake up this morning and think: Yes, today is the day I'm going to meet a married man—and I'm going to want to be with him. I'm even going to want him divorced so that we can be together.
When I woke up that morning almost eight years ago, that thought never crossed my mind. Yet, by the end of that particular summer day, I'd met him, and I was instantly attracted to him.
And then I met his wife—that same hour.
Meeting her didn't stop me from feeling the attraction, but I didn't think I needed to be concerned. I was a good, strong Christian woman—I already knew that adultery is a sin, and I believed I could be stronger than the attraction.
I wondered what kind of mature Christian I would be if I couldn't handle being around a married man. So I didn't flee or guard myself. I kept willfully and naively choosing to participate in the same weekly events that I'd promised them. Yes, them: his wife too.
My false sense of invincibility
The truth is I was prideful: I thought I was above committing adultery.
The truth is I was prideful: I thought I was above committing adultery. I now understand how my pride gave me a false sense of invincibility. I felt shielded by my holier-than-thou mentality, but in fact I was deeply vulnerable to the sin I thought I was too good to commit.
"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble," James 4:6 says. I was positioning myself to be opposed by the Creator of the universe. It wasn't my wisest moment.
Proverbs 16:18 heeds, "Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall." What I thought was strength or maturity in the face of attraction was, in fact, pride. What I thought was just a harmless attraction was actually bait on the line of temptation. Gradually, I was reeled further into the entanglement of sin. It was shockingly subtle and surprisingly innocent—a flirtatious comment here, or a lingering look there.
And it would be harder than I could have expected to get off the hook.
Indulging in my sin
I knew in my head that adultery was wrong, but I felt drawn to this man. And when we so strongly feel something that we identify as a good feeling (such as lust that we interpret as love), it's easy to question if it could possibly be too good to be wrong.
I let my feelings guide my decisions and that was part of the problem. I felt affirmed. I felt noticed. I felt desired. And prior to meeting him, I was oblivious to how starved I was for those satisfactions.
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Get your own man and leave other people stuff alone.
Get your ass out in the game and win..... no shortcuts in the search of the ultimate mate.
You brothers need to keep your eyes and moves off other men women.
Talking about your gurl has her eyes on me????????????????????????
Get your own gurl and put in the work because they are plenty of women out here too, especially so-called black and Spanish women that are available.
Thursday, September 3rd 2015 at 9:07PM
Yaiqab Saint
@ Saint,
Ha, you don't won't dude trying to push on your woman, huh? lol
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