FOOD FOR THOUGHT: CAN A WOMAN TEACH HER SON HOW TO BE A MAN? (1612 hits)
Interesting conversation I had with a friend, a single mom. Although I think she’s doing an excellent job with raising her son I think he’s still missing the core values a father teaches him. Just my opinion, I know things happen in a relationship and not everyone will stay for the sake of the child(ren) but as a mother you’re not a man and you can’t teach a boy how to be a man, I’m sorry. I feel the same way about the reverse situation a father can’t teach a daughter how to be a woman. I think I kind of offended her with my comments. Thoughts?
I was raised by a single mother who is now deceased, and I am one of those good men that have come from a single mother home, and do a good job of being a man if I don't say so myself. But it was not my mother who taught me, an only child, how to be a man. Sure she taught her son what her idea of a man is and how she thinks a man should be. She definitely instilled in me certain values and did not spare the rod when I misbehaved lol. However it is the male models she provided for me as well as interactions with other men, who taught me the lesson that she as a single mother could not.
Saturday, September 14th 2013 at 7:03PM
Truth B. Told
I think that women can teach boys and young men how to be respectful, responsible, driven adults but I definitely think that a man can give him real tips, advice on how deal with things, different ideas and share experiences so they can skip past steps of having to learn things the hard way. Fatherless young men benefit greatly from male mentors just as young women raised by single fathers benefit greatly by having women around. It's like a father can try to raise a young lady but having a mother figure around is better. I'm speaking in terms of an actual adult that really cares for the child's well being and who will not be a just a friend to a child.
Sunday, September 15th 2013 at 7:29PM
Siebra Muhammad
