Do you have any areas in your life that you have filled with reservations? Have you placed some things or people on hold because you’re waiting for others to show up? When we allow people to make reservations in our lives we hold spaces and experiences that we could very well be enjoying with others. When we don’t move forward because we are waiting on others we rob ourselves of moments of fulfillment.
When someone makes reservations at a restaurant for dinner, a stay at a hotel or a flight for a trip or a vacation it let’s whomever they made the reservation with know that this space belongs to them and can’t be filled by anyone else. So no matter how many people enter the restaurant, check into the hotel or book a flight, the space that they have reserved can’t be used by anyone else. Maybe you have held a seat for one or more of your friends at some event and everyone that approached you would say to them “ This seat is taken.”
All too often in our lives we are reserving spaces and holding seats for people who don’t deserve them or have no intention of showing up and in the process we push away those that we could truly benefit from. We reserve space for others while continuously waiting for them to change, to apologize for hurting or wronging us, we wait for others to commit or to respond to us so that things that we are in pursuit of can move forward. While we are waiting for others to show up we miss out on those whom we can benefit from and all the good that they have to offer us.
Even for someone who makes a reservation at a restaurant, hotel or books a flight if they don’t show up at a certain time they lose the space that was reserved for them. In our own personal lives we need to begin canceling some reservations. Stop waiting on others to do what they are never going to do. We waste precious moments of our lives being frustrated, upset, angry and even resentful of others because of their actions or lack thereof.
Instead of waiting for someone to apologize to you, forgive them. Stop waiting for someone to commit to you and begin waiting for the person that is looking for someone to commit to. Stop waiting for a person to change; you may need to change how you deal with that person. If you’re working on a project to move yourself forward in life; stop allowing others to hold you up if they show no signs of progress and connect with those that will assist you in moving forward.
When dealing with other people we must remember that we have no control over their actions; people will display who they truly are through their actions. We can however control our actions and reactions to what they do; we can control how we allow their actions to affect us. Some things we need to do for our benefit even if it means canceling some reservations that we still have open for others that are not going to show up.
How many good, loving people have you allowed to pass you by because you were holding a seat for someone else? How many great relationships will you never get to experience because you have a reserved sign displayed in your life? We miss out on the love of others, the joy that they could bring and the value that they could add to our lives because we are waiting on those that are not going to show up. It’s time to cancel the reservations.
Reservations – It’s Time To Cancel
3 Things:
1. Stop holding a place in your life for those who are not going to show up or who are just not worthy of and incapable of fulfilling it.
2. Once you move pass those who don’t belong in your life you will encounter those that so.
3. When we allow people to make reservations in our lives we hold spaces and experiences that we could very well be enjoying with others. When we don’t move forward because we are waiting on others we rob ourselves of moments of fulfillment.
