Should I Marry My Bipolar Fiance? He's Controlling, Yells At Me A Lot, & I'm Considering Not Marrying Him (1422 hits)
Bipolar disorder, also called manic-depressive disorder, involves sudden, extreme mood swings between overexcited mania and depression. This order can be dangerous and include suicidal impulses. By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach http://www.lifescript.com/health/centers/b...
Q: Q: My fiancé has bipolar disorder. He’s controlling and yells at me a lot. I’m considering not getting married. Any advice? -Linda C.
A: I’m sorry to read that your fiancé is bipolar because I recognize what that means. As a result, I also understand and appreciate your concerns and reservations about getting married. Bipolar disorder is a mood disorder that’s thought to be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. The result, as you can attest to first hand, Linda, are extreme mood swings that include very frenzied highs and severely depressive lows. In most cases, however, there are many more lows than highs.
Since you’re questioning your ability to handle this issue now, my instincts and experience tells me that it’s likely to become a bigger issue after marriage. And research shows that marriages, where one of the partners is bipolar, have a higher divorce rate than the average population. Bipolar disorder is typically managed with medication and therapy, but there’s no cure for it, so this is an issue that won’t go away and will be a part of your daily married life together. Married people manage this successfully all the time, but it’s easier for some to handle and more difficult or impossible for others. Living with someone who’s bipolar takes a great deal of love, patience and understanding.
Whether or not you should marry your fiancé is a question that only you can answer, Linda. However, I would strongly suggest that you engage in some pre-marital counseling and talk this all through before you say I do and then come to realize that You can’t!
Don't do it... Don't do it..... more complications and plus bipolar's have a higher incidence of suicide rates compared to non-bipolar subjects.
Tuesday, April 16th 2013 at 2:07PM
Yaiqab Saint
Challenging, but if I think a person should have a pure true love and willing to take it on then expectations of the personality may become obviously worth it. If you do it for love--Love is wonderful. Somehow, love can manage to keep a close intimate working relationship.
The Agape kind of love definitely will overcome any issues, but how many people practice this?
Not many, eh! Many practice the Eros kind of love that says here today, gone tomorrow because although I love you, I'm not In love with you. Folk fall out of Love like they change their clothes~Ha!
