By Sheree Adams | on March 12th, 2013 | Black and Married With Children.com A Positive Image of Marriage and Family
Isn’t it funny that when you have something negative to say about your spouse, some people are all ears? Or, if you have complaints about your marriage, that you get all of the attention. Maybe it’s just me, but I agree with the age old cliche’ that misery loves company…but why is that? I know it’s not that we all enjoy seeing people suffer or that we get some type of fulfillment by seeing the shortcomings of people and their marriages. I think that by natural compassion, people flock to one another because they feel some type of cohesiveness or there is an innate desire to comfort those who are in need. Let’s just facet it, some people are just nosy/messy!
What I have found is that when I don’t have complaints about my marriage or when I’m not rattling off my marital moans and gripes, then a lot of conversations with acquaintances are cut short. Sadly, when I’m singing the praises of my husband and thanking God for all the blessings that have been bestowed upon my marriage, then people either think that I’m bragging or that it’s just not juicy enough, so they move on. Thankfully and truthfully, there are a lot of times where actually nothing needs “fixing” and there is a space of happiness and complete euphoria. After all, isn’t that what we strive for? Isn’t that what we work so hard for — to be happily married and to have that “happily ever after?”
I was just having a conversation with two women and we all agree that you should dream and expect great things and claim victory over anything that you want to achieve! At some point, I know that I have claimed victory and happiness in my marriage and I’m currently achieving it! For that, I am so grateful. We should all say nice things to and about our spouses, sometimes even when we don’t feel like it. We should begin to speak blessings and peace within our marriage until they come into existence. Use kind and loving words to one another, even when we don’t want to. Just go ahead and claim happiness, even during the times when we are not.
Lastly, be careful who you talk to about your marriage, because everybody that claims to be your friend, is not. Some people will view your complaints about your marriage as a weakness that they could “prey on” when they smile and say they will “pray for” you. We all know there’s no such thing as a perfect marriage but we can strive for perfection, at least we’ll be close to it. When we speak positivity into our lives, we can achieve it. When we talk to our mates about what we want in our marriage, the possibilities are endless. Notice I said, our mates. All others — OPTIONAL.
BMWK — Who do you talk to about the good and bad in your marriage?
About the author
Sheree is a wife and WAHM of three who passionately blogs about marriage, family, health tips and more as Smart & Sassy Mom. Sheree is committed to helping blended families and keeping marriages strong, healthy, fun and SPICY!
