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You’ll never recognize the good while seeking it through your bad experiences. You’ll never be able to see and recognize pure love while looking through the hurt that others have caused. You’ll never be able to feel comfort while trying to receive it through the pain that you feel. You must let go of all of the effects of your bad experiences to be free to receive the fullness and abundance of life.

Years ago I met an older woman who had some issues going on in her life; she was hurt and dealing with many unpleasant things from her past. Because she never dealt with her issues and shortcomings every relationship that she entered she sabotaged. No matter how nice and friendly you were to her she would find a way to mess the friendship up. This on her part may not have all been done on purpose but that which is within us is what comes out of us and this is how we deal with other people. It seemed as though she intentionally did things to get on your nerves and irritate you. So no one wanted to deal with her, people are not always going to reach around the hurt and pain that you refuse to let go of to get to you. People will get tired of trying to fight against you to get to you. Even though the heart of others went out to her and help was available to her as long as she held on the all the bitterness of past experiences she could not receive the love, help and support that others wanted to give.

I also remember that as me and this woman’s paths crossed I myself had been dealing with the effects of my own bad experiences though I had not gotten to the point of bitterness as she had. This was doing a time that I did not trust others, I had come in contact with those that said that they were for me and wanted to help me but instead they hurt me. I was so paranoid when it came to dealing with people, I did not know who was for me or against me, and I was suspicious of the motives of anyone I came in contact with. If someone said hello to me I wondered why are they saying hello or why are they were being so nice. I can remember praying to God that I did not want to become like that woman; I did not want all this bitterness to build up in my heart.

One morning I remember looking in the mirror and combing my hair and I heard God say to me that if I did not begin to deal with my own issues from bad experiences that I would end up just like that lady. It’s amazing how we can be looking at ourselves in the mirror and fail to realize who we truly are or recognize what we are becoming. But God has a mirror of truth and you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. I had already gotten to the point where in my mind that my thoughts toward people were “if you’re here to hurt me let’s just get this over with, don’t pretend that you are for me when you are really not.” I was afraid to trust because I did not want my trust abused anymore, I was afraid to let others get too close because I did not want to be hurt again, I did not want to show kindness because too many people had already taken my kindness for weakness.

So like that woman that I had came in contact with and many others I began to build walls around me to protect myself. Remember this, the walls that we build to protect ourselves become the same walls that imprison us. Then we begin to fortify these walls with bitterness, resentment, and animosity, hurt, anger, pain, distrust, shame, unforgiveness and the list goes on and on. There is not a problem in keeping those out that don’t mean us any good but there is a problem when we isolate ourselves from those who are truly looking out for our best interest.

We can’t control the actions of others but we can control our own actions, thoughts and feelings in responding to what have been done to us. I had to come to the place in life where I had to let go of all of the effects of the bad experiences that had happened in my life; those caused by others and even those caused by myself. We don’t like to admit it but some of our greatest pain and deepest hurt come from those we cause ourselves, self inflicted wounds. This took a lot of prayer and willingness to trust God and to trust that He was my healer and deliverer. It all did not happen overnight but eventually over time I was able to let it go.

The problem with not letting go is that the longer we hold on to the effects of the negative the more it grows and the more it grows within us the more it consumes us. It becomes deeply rooted within us and we become deeply rooted within it. We nurture it with our thoughts; we feed it with our words; we strengthen it by connecting with other people that are in the same situation who multipy our reasons for holding on and the longer we hold on the more it becomes a part of us. When we don’t let go we will never be able to receive the life that is truly meant for us to live. Yes we may have some great experiences and see some success take place, we may even enjoy some good relationships but we will never be complete. God has some things that are waiting and available for us to receive but we will never enjoy the experience because the hands of our spirits, hearts and minds are holding on to grudges, hurt, bitterness, unforgiveness, resentment, negative thoughts, fear and pain. As long and we hold on to these things, the fullness and abundance of life will always pass us by because there is no room in our life for it to dwell.

There are some people that we have been connected to at some point of our journey and now we are on separate paths; we have to let them go, there are others that are purposed to walk this leg of the journey with us but we can’t recognize them because we keep looking back for others that are long gone. It doesn’t matter if you did not receive the treatment that you thought that you deserve, let it go, stop holding up your life in the hopes of receiving something from others that they are not willing or obligated to give.

Let go of everything and everyone one that is holding you back. Let go of every situation that is causing you stress, grief and frustration. Let it go it doesn’t belong to you and receive all that God has in store for you; the fullness and abundance of life.

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Posted By: Lease Youmans
Monday, October 8th 2012 at 6:12PM
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