(BlackDoctor.org) -- Sometimes, in the fog of excitement, our vision is impaired, and this hinders our ability to see tell-tale signs and red flags. Despite what you’ve been taught in school, that small voice in the back of your mind isn’t necessarily your conscience — it may be the last fully functioning piece of your brain, desperately trying to tell you that the person you're seeing is not even close to being "the one."
Below, are 7 signs that may indicate they're not for you.
1. You don't trust him/her. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you're hacking into their email account, and going berserk when they goes out without you, something's wrong. If there's something about them that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps they're not the one for you.
2. One of you is struggling with an addiction.They're sweet. They're exciting. They love you very much. But they love their alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix or shopaholic ways more. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you can change them or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but they'll do so on their own terms - that is, if they come to realize that they need to stop foolish habits and/or be more mature.
3. You have a list of things that they need to stop doing/saying/wearing if they want your relationship to work. If you're fixating on their flaws, they're either not ...
@Jen great teaching moment post. (smile)
Sunday, February 5th 2012 at 12:58AM
Irma Robinson
@ Saint,
Trust is a major ingredient in any kind of relationship and although we might try to make a situation work ... how good can that situation be if we have no trust, eh? I remember trying to work it out with my college sweet heart ... we were on again and off again for years until finally as painful as it was for me... I said no more. It was the most painful journey I had to endure, because we both thought that we would end up getting married eventually. Now in hindsight, I think we both are happy that we decided to let go although we cared deeply for one another, but there was no trust ... he couldn't trust me and I didn't really trust him.
