Nurture, guard, and guide the flock of God that is your responsibility … Not domineering as arrogant, dictatorial, and overbearing persons but being examples, patterns, and models of Christian living …. 1 Peter 5:2-3 (Amp)
"The Apostle Peter, though writing to pastors, gives advice that applies to moms and dads: ‘Nurture, guard, and guide … not domineering … but being examples and patterns and models of Christian living.’"
Jesus protected the disciples’ spirits. What does that mean for your children? You protect their dignity, their self-esteem and their spirit. You realize the power of your words -- that your words can heal or hurt.
We say, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me.” That’s absolutely wrong!
Names hurt more than sticks and stones. A child can break a leg or an arm and it’ll heal, but some of you are still under a curse today because when you were growing up your dad or mom said, “You’re never going to amount to anything.”
And you’re still trying to prove them wrong. You’re still reacting to life instead of acting.
As parents we must understand the power of our words to hurt or to heal. A father can crush his daughter with one sentence. Or he can build up his daughter. The same is true with sons.
John Eldridge, in his book, Wild At Heart, says most men go through life reacting to what I often called ‘the father wound.’ Every boy, as he grows up, wants to have his manhood affirmed and the most important person to affirm it is his dad.
If he doesn’t get it there, he tries to get his manhood affirmed in a dozens of other ways. He lives his entire life trying to compensate for something his dad never said. “You’re okay, son. You’re a man. You’re all right. You’re valuable.”
The Apostle Peter, though writing to pastors, gives advice that applies to all leaders including moms and dads: “Nurture, guard, and guide the flock of God. [That includes your kids.]
That is your responsibility. Not domineering as arrogant or dictatorial or overbearing persons. But being examples and patterns and models of Christian living.”
This is good advice — but faaaarrr from being a Christian exclusive. Today, most Atheists regard themselves Humanists or Humanitarians — and consider themselves just as respectful of the "human" spirit as any theistic religion.
I don't consider myself either but live those exact same principals daily. Take off the references to God and JC and the advise applies to everyone. Religious, Atheist or Agnostic.
Great post, however. It's very much needed ESPECIALLY in our community.
Monday, June 21st 2010 at 2:09PM
Craig Amos
Rev. Father Amos,
Your comment is greatly appreciated and you are correct, this applies to anyone regardless of the references to God and Jesus.
Monday, June 21st 2010 at 2:20PM
Jen Fad
JF this is an ideal message for anyone--parents, mentors and young children. Enjoyed the article. A child's spirit is so innocent worth guarding!
Monday, June 21st 2010 at 6:21PM
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