"We've been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don't know who they're laying next to. I'm very comfortable and secure with my husband."
A hot pot of grits... now that's serious... I'm amazed that when people come into money how they change and start thinking differently...
I'm not saying that is the case with Mo'nique(because I know she's your girl and all, but I never thought I'd hear the day when a sistah of all people would say that sex outside the marriage isn't a deal breaker.
Having sex outside the marriage was the kind of thing that could get someone killed or seriously injured and I hear it still does. Ha! I wonder how doctors treat burns due to hot grits being throne on their patients?
Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 1:01PM
LMAO...Remember Al Green... found religion after his girlfriend threw some on him...LOL
Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 1:07PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
Where is the character here? She is such a beautiful woman, but this type of thing speaks a lot about how she feels about her self worth. Theres a message behind the message. She was sexually violated at a young age and I believe this plays a great deal with how she view the sacredness of marriage.
Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 4:39PM
That's a good point you make about Mo' abuse speaking alot of about how she views the sanctity of marriage. Perhaps she has been in therapy or perhaps she hasn't but from her statement it looks like she needs to go back or to continue with therapy.
Sex isn't something that should be played around with in my opinion, but to each his/her own. Even the Indian (Hindu) have an entire book on the science of sex (the Kama Sutra). Sex consumates a marriage so not only is it important from a religious perspective, but from a pratical perspective.
Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 5:05PM
yes DR. FAD.... I agree... And I don't this is about character... This goes way deeper... character vs. behavior
self esteem ... self worth...self DIGNITY... she's on her third marriage.... Jen help me out here.... most abused/molested/incestrial victims.. have issues with committment? Statistics show promiscurity... multiple pregnancies...? Mo's problems are more psychological...wouldn't you say?
Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 6:41PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
I don't know if she means it like that... if she does it's a shocker... My interpretation is she believes in remaining loyal or faithful, but in the case that one has an affair, as people who are married still have free will, and may fall into the trap of infidelity, as we’re human, it’s not acceptable, but they love each other enough –unconditionally, to work through it, heal, forgive, seek marriage counseling, etc. The idea of her confessing that she and her husband have an open marriage is preposterous, however, to each their own… What works for one person, may not work for another. Maybe she feels she’s being realistic within herself, or believes deep down inside that a man can’t remain faithful, or faithful to her, specifically, and thus she’s selling herself short… It’s pathetic, but not surprising…
Friday, April 23rd 2010 at 12:52AM
wow i cant believe i just heard what i just heard and watched. I can't say i feel the same way on this one. I dont see myself allowing my husband to lay in bed wit another women and tell me with all honesty that he is in love with me.
Saturday, April 24th 2010 at 4:03PM
Felicia Henderson- Ayler
I know that's real Felicia!
Saturday, April 24th 2010 at 4:06PM
Different people sometimes feel differently based on what they have been through in life. I can respect Mo'Nique's position on this, though it might not be for me if I was married... It goes back to trust.
Sunday, November 27th 2011 at 2:26AM
As much respect as I have for Mo this irritates me. First, don't get married if you are not going to go about it the way the Lord intended. Two, that is her insecurity lying to her to believe that having sex with someone else is not a deal breaker...she has brainwashed herself into making it ok for her husband to cheat because she doesn't believe she deserves the love and devotion of ONE man. You are accepting less than what God wants for you...but that is your life and I hope you won't be hurt with your decision.
Sunday, November 27th 2011 at 8:10AM
L. Y. Johnson
It irrritated the heck out me to because a man having ongoing affairs with one or multiple mistresses is a DEAL BREAKER. If it happened once like a one night stand, then I can work with him but habitual womanizing is just not KOSHER.
Monique needs therapy for the incest and molestatin she suffered at the hands of her older brother if not the whole entire family.
Monique CRAZY! She's spoutin' that "open marraige" stuff 'cause either she is a freak too, or she too scared to admit that she'd rather have a cheater than be alone. I'm with you Jen. One indiscration does not necessarily break a marraige, as we all know many factors can come into play. But all you git is ONE! And that's a MAYBE! For evrything else-I'm with Cynthia-HOT GRITS!!!! LOL Holla!!!!
Tuesday, December 6th 2011 at 11:08PM
I don't agree but to each his own. I do believe trust is essential in a marriage but monogamy is just as important to me.
Wednesday, December 7th 2011 at 3:02PM
@ Sister Len,
Definitely do think she's lost her mind on that one! If she like polygamy and wants to endourse it... then that's her business, but I'm not into that nonsense.