Why You Should Tell A Black Woman The Truth (483 hits)
(BlackDoctor.org) -- Brothers, how many of you out there have a secret you’re keeping from your woman? Have you cheated on her? Have you given her a false promise of commitment? Do you feel the need to come clean? Many men out there are keeping secrets from their women for many different reasons. The number one reason why men harbor secrets is fear; fear of repercussions and fear of hurting their woman. This fear has the ability to manifest itself in many forms.
When men keep secrets from their women, their actions usually differ from the norm, which gives their women a feeling that something is wrong. In this situation, as the natural nurtures that they are, women’s first urge is to find out what’s wrong in order to try and fix it. Afraid that their woman will find out their secret, men usually withdraw even further when they are asked “What’s wrong?” ...
When a man harbor secrets, such as affairs, issues of trust usually arise. They start to wonder if their woman is also guilty of infidelities. They may become extremely jealous and begin to question their partner’s whereabouts or the friendships they maintain with the opposite s*x. If you're in an established relationship and have decided to move on, or if you've dropped the ball somewhere along the line and truly want to atone for your actions, you should be truthful as soon as possible...
"A woman can handle almost anything if you tell her the truth about it," she [Iyanla Vanzant] says. "But if you lie to her, you will undermine her faith in herself, and ultimately her trust in you. Tell her the truth. Let her work it out. You can damage love and love will repair; but once you damage trust, you've got a rough road to walk"... Most women want honesty, even if it hurts. Remember honesty is the foundation of a good relationship. A lie needs support, but the truth stands alone.
I agree a women can handle anything, if you tell her the truth. I myself can deal with the truth, but a lie, wow.
Monday, November 2nd 2009 at 5:11PM
Virginia Marshall
..."Irresponsible disclosure can be as bad as Complete disclosure"... Now that's an interesting thought Brother Rickey.
..."I myself can deal with the truth, but a lie, wow"... Sister Virginia, I'm like you, but I have found out through experience that the famous line from one movie has proven to be true, “You can't handle the truth” --- you referring to people in general---I find this especially pertinent when it comes to many. I remember once after bible study, a married church member came over to greet me, but I had just sneezed into my hand so when he held out his hand to shake mine, I told him that I couldn't shake his hand due to fear of spreading germs to him (I'm a nurse by the way). So the man says, “Then you should give me a kiss”. I was INSULTED & told him that I was going to walk over to his wife (who was in eye view of us) and let her know what he had just said to me.
Well I did just as I had prophesized--- I walked over to his wife with the man following me and told the woman what her husband had said to me. She looked at her husband and asked if it were true? He looked dumb-founded and had nothing to say. I told the lady to please talk to him and let him know that I didn’t appreciate his comment [after all I wasn't some bimbo]. Do you know that when Sunday rolled around --low and behold the wife wasn’t talking to me!!! I expected the man not to talk to me, but the wife not speaking to me really blew my mind. I guess she saw me as a Home Wrecker. The moral of the story for ME was NEVER tell that Black woman the truth again about her husband nor any other Black woman anything unless THAT indivdual was a very, very, very close personal friend of mine.
