What's Your Story? Personal empowerment is really closer than you realize. (405 hits)
What's Your Story?Personal empowerment is really closer than you realize.
How I feel about myself is really related to what I believe about myself. How did you come to believe what you do? Is it what others say about you? Well, that must really keep you in a state of confusion considering how fickle people can be – love you one day, leave you the next. Do you believe what you do about yourself because of what the media says is the best way to look? Well, good luck if you think you can change with media opinion. It is about as stable as a boulder about to roll over the edge of a cliff. Do you believe what you do about yourself because of what Ms. Jones, your 3rd grade math teacher said about your level of intelligence, or the religious person who told you that you were a “bad boy” or the parent who said you would amount to nothing? Do you see how insane it is to base what you think about yourself on the opinion of others, on sources external to you? It could change like the weather, and considering that much of our world is focused on the negative, it is no wonder that most people are insecure and carry a sense of shame and powerlessness. Until you wake up and realize that all of these scenarios are nothing but a bunch of stories, you will continue to be unfulfilled and suffer through life. There is a place in the left hemisphere of your brain known as the “autobiographer”. It literally creates your autobiographical memory. It is the storyteller that creates your memory of who you think you are and it is very subjective indeed. Once you create your story, your brain will screen “reality” to look for things you believe and focus on them, and reject things that collide with what you do not believe. That’s great if you love yourself and feel worthy of abundance in all areas of life. It’s a scary thought if you feel shame, guilt, worry, unworthy, lack of confidence, or any of the host of very common negative feelings that most people carry throughout their lives. The answer is to first realize that you are not your thoughts. However, you need to realize that the thoughts you think and grab hold to will attach to emotions based on your perceptions and wire into your body, your physiology and start to “feel real”. As you believe this monologue that goes on in your head, it becomes even more deeply embedded into your “autobiographer”, or your ego, and it will run the story of your life. I used to wire my brain with negative stories but as I have awaken to the dramas of life, I have learned to “dump the junk” and create new, on purpose stories for myself and it is working…yeh! It is a process, but it is worth it. Personal empowerment begins with taking “response ability” for your own experiences and doing what is necessary to make the shift to what you want. The world is undergoing a shift right now. You have the power inside to shift to the side of conscious creation if you choose to. The choice is yours. You can choose right now to start creating a story that empowers you and begins to enable you to live your best life! Valencia Ray MD The Confidence Doc
Tee Bolden, Positive Powerhouse Image & Lifestyle Coach 757-241-1368
