Goal Setting?/The New Wisdom in Wealth and Health Workshops by Esther Pinkston (506 hits)
Goal Setting Create Your Order Form for 2009 By Joyce Shafer Dec 23, 2008
If you’d like more clarity and energy about what you want for yourself or your business in 2009, here’s a technique that helps you get it.
Whatever you desire does not have to be important to others, only to you.
You know what you want in the areas of work, finance, family, personal development, spiritual development, social and intimate relationships, fun, and health. Or, maybe you sort of know what you want.
One way to amp up your energy and enthusiasm about a dream, goal, or desired outcome is to look at it more thoroughly than you may have. If you answer the questions I list here, you’ll get clearer and create an order form that offers guidance so you can move forward.
Get a sheet of paper and a pen or create columns in a document on your computer. Pick something about your life or business you want to see happen.
First column: Write what you don’t want (tangibles rather than feelings). If you want ten new clients a month or a relationship, you’d write something like I don’t want less than ten new clients a month; I don’t want clients who don’t pay, don’t have a sense of humor, etc. Or, I don’t want a relationship with someone who doesn’t share my core values; is emotionally or otherwise unavailable, etc.
If you believe that positive thinking means you shouldn’t focus on what you don’t want, this is called denial. What you don’t want is rambling around in your subconscious anyway. You might as well give it an opportunity to be heard. Self-sabotage usually happens when our conscious and subconscious thoughts conflict. Get the don’t-wants out instead of keeping them hidden.
Second column: Write what you don’t want to feel (afraid, unsuccessful, taken for granted, overworked, confused, etc.). Go ahead and give voice to any and every such feeling.
Third column: Write what you do want (ten or more new clients a month; meet and get to know one or more new people also interested in a relationship, etc.).
Fourth column: Write what you do want to feel. List everything until nothing else comes up (valued, appreciated, respected, confident, on purpose, fulfilled, etc.).
Fifth column: Write why you want it. Really let loose with this one. Whatever your why is, let it talk to you. When you find your why and it’s compelling, you amaze yourself with the inspired ideas and actions that come to you. If your why isn’t compelling, check to see if it’s a case of “It would be nice . . .” rather than “I intend it” (wish vs. commitment).
Sixth column: Write how you will feel once you have this.
Seventh column: Write how others will feel once you have this. How will your new clients feel when they work with you as a confident, fulfilled person? How will your staff and/or family feel when they see you feeling so good? How will the person you move towards or into a relationship with feel about being around you, especially if you feel happy with yourself and your life?
Eighth column: Create a statement that helps you amp up your energy about this. You want a statement you can really buy into. If, at this time, you feel unsure about getting ten new clients a month or finding someone who wants to be in a relationship with you, writing that you have something as a given won’t work because you’re not on board with it yet. And, that’s fine. What about this: I want to believe that I can find a way to get ten new clients a month (or meet someone I eventually share a relationship with). See how this is a true statement but it doesn’t put pressure on you?
Ninth column: Next actions. Maybe one or more next actions come to you now or came to you as you wrote your responses. If not, not a problem. Write that you ask to be shown one or more next actions and know that because your focus is on getting them, you will.
Each morning, write your statement. What you’ll notice is that it will change as you open to next actions and/or take them. You’ll move from I want to believe to I believe to I can to I will to I have or I am.
I wish you a wonderful new year and a new year filled with wonders.
