For the men out there - What can your wife do to make you listen! Are you waiting for her to cheat?

I posted a previously blog about my friend coming to me regarding her desire to be with a past lover. My friend is married to a "good man." She claims to be in-love with the other guy. I told her she should talk to her husband because it sounds like they have some issues to address. She said that she has tried to talk to him, but he does not listen and does not feel that there is a problem. I have heard this about men/husbands before. Why don't you guys communicate? What does a women/wife have to do to get you to listen???