Do Black Women Know What Headship Is In A Marriage?

Amen Sophie I am so happy to comment on this blog, which I agree with 100%. I am happy to say that I am not one of those women who feels that she needs to wear the pants in the relationship. I am more than happy to allow a man to be a man. I believe in what the bible says about men being the head of the household, and women today have taken t his way out of porportion as well as some men. It doesnt matter that a woman works, or even makes more money than her husband, but that she respects him as a man, and as her husband. I think couples need to learn to work together instead of against one another, ans things will go smoothly. Ladies need to shut their mouths, stop using so much profanity, and learn how to be a real lady. Sorry sisters but its true we got a long way to go.

Hi Sophie,
I don't think that black women are the only ones who misunderstand headship. Headship does not mean that the man is the only one who has the right to make descisions in a marriage. Before a marriage can operate properly both must understand. And the man must understand that the woman is not inferior to him. When God brought the woman to Adam it was to help him. That's why He took the woman from man's side. The man must be doing the right thing when leading his family. He must not rule with an iron fist. When I think about headship this is what comes to mind. The man is like the captain of the team(family). If the captain doen't understand his role he can not truly lead or head the team. I believe if the man treats his wife as a team player things will work out better. SHe needs to know what is going on and what dirrection the team is going in. Both should discuss issues concerning the family. If the wife wants to do something that will cause the family harm or problems then the husband must make the final descision that will help or better the family's situation. On th eother hand if the husband wants to do something that will cause the family to suffer then the wife needs to step up and make sure her family is protected and well cared for.Its not about one or the other making all the descisions and the other being left in the dark.That is not headship or leadership. The misunderstanding of this topic is why so many marriages fail today. I also think it is best for two people to discuss this as well as other matters that will effect their lives as a married couple before making that step. mutal respect is needed.

Sophie, I think this a subject that really needs to be talked about. Our men have egoes that are much bigger than ours and letting them make the decisions in a relationship helps those egoes. Me personally, I ask my husbands' opinion on many things from what to cook to were to spend vacation. When it comes to the bills I give my part on the bills and he actually writes out the checks. Any man that allows the lady to make all the decisions is not a strong man. The lady makes the home feel loved the man makes it possible to love the home. I don't want the headship nor the tailship I want to be equal and moving together. If you keep the man happy you will be happy as well.