Is the Black Church Keeping Black Women Single & Lonely?
I absolutely know without a shadow of doubt that the Black church's flawed ideology and theology (encourages single Christian women to 'wait patiently which is a code word for passively on God' to send a man to their congregation to find them) promotes singleness among Black women particularly denominations such as the Pentecostals/ Evangelicals. What is that about?!
The game of love isn't difficult (female+ male= family). Once I figured that much out, the rest was up to me. I had to come correct with my A game...presenting my perfectly made up self when I stepped out of the house, because I learned that men were attracted by appearance and nice dressed women with a nice smelling aroma. Once I got his attention, the rest was up to me. Of course I did pray and fast but I was ACTIVELY doing what I needed to do from a spiritual and practical stand point.
That praying and fasting made me wise up to see things that I hadn't seen before; I stopped sitting around the church waiting for my husband to come in there as the pastor was teaching. SHUCKS, men are everywhere! Duh. I stopped giving money to the pastor's agenda and started supporting my own agenda. ... a life mate. This is from my own personal experience from being single and lonely in the Black church.
See original article featured August 10, 2010|By Liane Membis, CNN: Does the black church keep black women single?
http://articles.cnn.com/2010-08-10/living/...
What are your thoughts?
The game of love isn't difficult (female+ male= family). Once I figured that much out, the rest was up to me. I had to come correct with my A game...presenting my perfectly made up self when I stepped out of the house, because I learned that men were attracted by appearance and nice dressed women with a nice smelling aroma. Once I got his attention, the rest was up to me. Of course I did pray and fast but I was ACTIVELY doing what I needed to do from a spiritual and practical stand point.
That praying and fasting made me wise up to see things that I hadn't seen before; I stopped sitting around the church waiting for my husband to come in there as the pastor was teaching. SHUCKS, men are everywhere! Duh. I stopped giving money to the pastor's agenda and started supporting my own agenda. ... a life mate. This is from my own personal experience from being single and lonely in the Black church.
See original article featured August 10, 2010|By Liane Membis, CNN: Does the black church keep black women single?
http://articles.cnn.com/2010-08-10/living/...
What are your thoughts?
..."Patty Davis ...46, of Union City, Georgia, has attended African Methodist Episcopal churches since before she could crawl. She sits proudly in the pew every Sunday for service and is among the first to arrive for bible study each Wednesday.
Every day is a blessed day for me," she says. "Jesus is the No. 1 man in my life and any man who wants me must seek me through Him." The unmarried Georgia native is a committed follower of the Christian faith, striving to live and breathe the gospel in her daily life. Yet, according to relationship advice columnist Deborrah Cooper, it is this devout style of belief and attachment to the black church that is keeping black women like Davis -- single and lonely. ...
http://articles.cnn.com/2010-08-10/living/...