To the young Black Ladies: Avoid Dating, Mixing or Marrying White Guys !

I've never allowed anyone to tell me who to love or not to love so I will not be starting in 2011. As a matter of fact if I call correctly, this is still a free country, eh! ((lol))

Besides Black men have long been disqualified and have lost credibility when tryin' to tell Black women who and who not to date especially since they have always dated outside of their "Own Kind" as you say Brother Jamal.

Jen.. I'm not here to tell anyone whom to or not to date... But the brother does make some good points... We need to lift the pride in our young MEN and WOMEN as to the self worth... Society, media, up bringing, etc.... Paints a very dismal picture of values for today's youth... We have a very rich and beautiful history and culture... If we help to cultivate this in our youth our future and theirs will continue to lift us all... Just my thoughts.

@ Brother Trey,
I guess Brother Jamal is entitled to his opinions but I don't anticipate that I will doing what any man that isn't my husband says, Black or White. Women are in charge now; didn't you guys get that memo? ((Lol)) When the Black man lost control of his woman to the White man, that was it. The Black man might as well face this reality and stop crying over spilled milk because I've got more news for yous guys; the cat has already licked it (the milk) up. Besides that, life is much, too short to be physically, emotionally, and mentally limiting oneself to one tiny ethnic group when there's an entire sea of fish out there available, willing, able, and capable of taking care of Black women. Need I go on? My best advice for a woman and that includes the Black woman and that is go where the heart leads irrespective of a man's ethnic background.

Trey my brother, OK...< you hear what is being said. you said "...If we help to cultivate this in our youth our future and theirs will continue to lift us all". Thats true, which is why we need it to be in grained in them while they are young so that by the time they are a matured woman, they will distinguish human select very naturally without being told or suggested. It turns out the institution of slavery managed to disturb the equilibrium among African Americans pride system where the black women use to prefer black men to the ninth degree. But after America's slavery was through with us and stereotypes set in, we were made to be coons, crooks, no good, burglars, heathens, dumb, stupid, jiv-time and so many other connotations to make black women not prefer their own in when in fact their own kind was not only created for them but is God's choice for them.

Sis. Jen...thanks for your input...but just because you are a beautiful black woman, like a rose you should have thorns to protect yourself, would you not agree. OK, think of it....these thorns are sharp and can hurt. In contrast to the most beautiful rose petal. What you find is that these thorns are there on purpose. Civilized man has always observed nature to govern the society in nations. A black woman dating anything without proper discretion can hardly build a strong community. Sure, some brothers like to go for the white woman. It is not a double standard. Black men need to back off of that as well. But, one can hardly use the mistake of another as an excuse for the same mistake of theirs.

Suppose (if I go with your divine purpose theory) that Slavery was by divine so that God could populate the Earth with African Peoples other than in Mother Africa, then I could justify the Black woman being with the any man other than just a Black man. Although I don't believe that, I will have to agree with Sister Thomasena from BIA and say that biologically and scientificly speaking there is no difference between a White man and a Black Man.

My late uncle (God rest his soul) often said of his White girlfriends that when he entered them "down there" theirs' were the same color (pink) inside as his Black girlfriends. For me, its all the same and no one shall ever be able to convince me otherwise. I do however respect your opinion (although its Wrong). Love has no boundaries except the manmade ones. Don't you think that the world would be a much better place to live in if people would just Love a little bit more and fight a little bit less? ((wink-wink)) As the late 'King of Pop said in his song(Ebony & Ivory), "I'm a lover, not a fighter."

oops i meant by Divine design...

I swear I wish the BLACK MAN would concern himself with the BLACK MAN and other BLACK MEN! Ya'll got more issues and problems than any other group but you always focusing on others instead of yourselves!!!

I hear what you are saying Charlene.....and it makes for a terrific sound bit...but when reality sets in...trying traveling across America and observing who you see walking the streets in the urban ghetto with a child on their hip or in buggies. Unemployment and children out of wedlock and prostitution is plaguing African Women many times because of BAD decisions. It turns out that man is responsible for woman and when women are suffering, men look for ways to improve conditions. Since women did not create themselves, it is not their choice that men seek to take care of them....it is just the way nature has it....unless some woman can become creator of the universe and set some new rules into motion.....but that is NOT THE CASE. So until then, man will look at his condition and the condition of woman make effort to resolve issues that keeps both down.

@ Sister Hill,
I hear you girl! That's what I'm saying, "The Black man should solve his own Issues and leave Black women the heck alone. I keep telling Brother Jamal that we don't need the help of the Black man because we aren't the property of men since women gained rights. You would think he would listen. We're doing just fine with our babies on our hips and in our shopping buggies.

Sister Hill we should start a blog about how some Black men act like the Energizer Bunny impregnating Black (and get this) abandon not only the woman, but baby, too! Or how about we do a blog talking about how some Black men prefer women of other ethnic gprs over Black women, or how about we start a blog about how some Black men won't hardly work, or how about we start a blog about how much some Black men whine about how they can't get ahead in their own birth country because the White man keeps holding a brotha down ... and the beat goes on and on yada yada yada. Excuses, excuses, excuses.

I feel ya Sister Hill and God bless you!

Some slave masters brutally simply raped young African American girls using what ever violence was required. The assaults were obviously most commonly visited on teenage girls and young women. Then there was a range of approaches, including threats to the girl or women, to her family, or threats about punishments, added work, sale, or promises of freedom.

During slavery African American fathers, husbands and brothers had to stand-by, shut up and watch and listen while the caucasian abused and violated their female love-ones. Now 500 years later and the black male is free to stand up and protect and defend.....many of our sisters want us brothers to back off and continue to shut up so the caucasian can still have free rein over them. DON'T THINK SO.

NOW today, 500 years later, African Women are "scared" to stand up and speak up against their one-time rapists. That is the purpose of the blog. Though many uncle toms have been commenting, their are many sisters that know what I am speaking about but somewhat timid to speak out.

I think its time for us all to hear also how the White Slave Masters also sodomized the Black man. This is a really well kept secret that needs to be told as well. It wasn't just Black women that were raped, but the men were, too. If we can agree to let's tell the entire truth of this story called Slavery, then perhaps we can meet somewhere in the middle. I believe that we still live in a free country, but its getting clearer and clearer to me that freedom (of speech and choice) isn't really free. Women are no longer property like mere chattle but we are human beings who can choose for ourselves and we aren't not the property of men.

Acts of slavery included violations of both black male and female. The vast majorities of the rape was done between white men with black women. Rapes between white men on black men were vastly outnumbered but did occur. Today, if you find a black man with a white man s*xually, they are called "perverts". There is name for this deviant act. Also, there is a name for a white man with a black woman. The white man is acting his usual anti-natural way....as for the black woman....she is considered a pervert, as well. Same goes for a black man with a white woman. He, the black man is considered a pervert.

@Jen and Charlene.....the purpose of this blog is to move young black ladies in accordance with the natural way of life. If the black woman has her freedom and qualified to have s*x with whoever and whatever, then let her make a choice to not have s*x with a dog.....and her brother in me is only trying to help guide her.

Jamal,
I'll be praying for you.