Holidays: For Family or For Me?

This post really touched me because I cannot exist without my family, but it's not about me it's about the author. I will have to agree with your boyfriend. First you said 'there is always some type of fight' then you said "I had the choice of being bored to death", make up your mind because if there are fights there will be no boredom. Well I could go into a lot of reasons why we all need family but I'll only say God forbid something life threatening may happen to you, who would turn to. Would you rather be with yourself or with your family? These are questions we ask ourselves when we are strong and healthy. Discuss the matter with someone sane in your family, but honey you need them, we all do!

This post hit so close to home for me. I too struggled with not wanting to go to my parents home for Christmas. As with your family, there seems to always be some type of animosity going on within my family. I have one sibling who, and I can not figure out why for the life of me, just pick at my family. Two years in a row she has brought my oldest to court on bogus charges, last year, the truth came out, but believe it, it had gone to trial. This sister is one I no longer want any dealings, contact, nor do I want to share the same space or breathe the same air with her at any time. She has hurt me to no end. The family knows she is wrong, but it seems to me, her actions are condoned by the family. I forced myself to deal on Thanksgiving, and ended up being the maid, which bothered me to no end. I did not want to go at all on Christmas, my oldest and I even cooked a complete Christmas feast at home. When it was all said and done, I did go, with my guard up and ready to leave at the drop of a hat. It went okay, but this year, I am not going at all. Well, I will go by to visit and exchange gifts. But I am done with the whole family dinner and all day and all night thing. I do not get anything out of it but aggravation, sadness, and end up feeling really depressed when I get home.

@Jewell=> I would have agreed with you 10 years ago, and you are very lucky to have a family to hold on to and cling to, but what I have realized with my family is that, they do nothing for me but keep me feeling annoyed, sad, down and unworthy. I thank God each and everyday for my two daughters, they are the family I cannot exist without. As far as my siblings, and parents... Well, my mother is suffering from Alzhiemer's, and yes, she was my backbone, and I miss her sooooo much. She is the ONLY reason I force myself to go over at all at any time. My male siblings show me love, mostly my brother a year and a half older than me, my older brother is a loner, but whenever we see each other it is all love. My sisters, totally different story. I feel they work hard to see me and my little family unhappy and do all they can to bring us down. Who needs that?