Why am I single and not involved with a black man?
Why am I single? This is long and this is real and my thoughts
This is kind of deep, and this comes after a long stressful day.
Where are the protectors? Where are the gentlemen? I do not find them on web sites and out in the real world either most of the time.
I really do not know what to think about most black men right now.Many black men on here make negative generalizations about black women saying thats why they go to white women but black women can date white and other races just as well! But I dont want to make this about race. Im just tired of the disrespect.
No disrespect to anyone but In my opinion, all these men who use this line "where the real women" if you are not a real man how can you ask for a real woman? I am definitely open to dating other races myself.
I have been asked this question obviously more than just a few times... But I am single to be really real, haven't really met my good matches. It seem like everybody I hear talking is always talking bout the same thing or got to be dating somebody, sleepin with somebody, sneakin with somebody, whatever. In my opinion, all these men who use this line "where the real women" if you are not a real man how can you ask for a real woman? I respect myself, pay my own bills, have my own. I feel that if a man's agenda is mainly s*x, its a waste of my time. If a man is looking for someone to take care of him, that is a big waste of my time. If a man doesn't respect me, that's a huge waste of time.
I have dated and have met maybe some good hearted people but we arent ready at the same time or they didnt take time to get to know me. But the game playing and shady behavior is terrible! For example, a man expecting something to happen because he took me out to dinner a few times. if it was meant to happen it would have maybe. A man texting nasty obscene text messages of perversion and doesn't even know me! That's a huge turn off. Don't pretend to be so fascinated by my writing just to get in my pants! Or don't pretend to be a good man if you are looking to just be in my pants. I admit I' m not ghettofabulous and many are intimidated because I have some standards but I have a heart and some people may try to get over on me or dont appreciate it. I have always been kind of deep and unique and I think that some people don't know how to take you when you don't act like everybody else! I have never been into thugs, players, ballers, any of that. We arent all the same! s*x is a beautiful thing especially in a dating or relationship.
What attracts me is class, dress and smell nice, intelligence but the s*x appeal and personality is natural, a gentleman at heart secure in self or working on it, caring and loving, takes care of himself and knows how to treat a good woman like myself and respects me because I respect myself. Some attraction, vibe. If he has kids, takes care of them, and not some baby daddy. Someone I can enjoy hangin out with concerts, poetry, movies, beautiful scenery, etc. Someone who makes me laugh and smile! Men who are calling to make sure Im home safe, Someone to change that flat tire! Someone who is there!
This is kind of deep, and this comes after a long stressful day.
Where are the protectors? Where are the gentlemen? I do not find them on web sites and out in the real world either most of the time.
I really do not know what to think about most black men right now.Many black men on here make negative generalizations about black women saying thats why they go to white women but black women can date white and other races just as well! But I dont want to make this about race. Im just tired of the disrespect.
No disrespect to anyone but In my opinion, all these men who use this line "where the real women" if you are not a real man how can you ask for a real woman? I am definitely open to dating other races myself.
I have been asked this question obviously more than just a few times... But I am single to be really real, haven't really met my good matches. It seem like everybody I hear talking is always talking bout the same thing or got to be dating somebody, sleepin with somebody, sneakin with somebody, whatever. In my opinion, all these men who use this line "where the real women" if you are not a real man how can you ask for a real woman? I respect myself, pay my own bills, have my own. I feel that if a man's agenda is mainly s*x, its a waste of my time. If a man is looking for someone to take care of him, that is a big waste of my time. If a man doesn't respect me, that's a huge waste of time.
I have dated and have met maybe some good hearted people but we arent ready at the same time or they didnt take time to get to know me. But the game playing and shady behavior is terrible! For example, a man expecting something to happen because he took me out to dinner a few times. if it was meant to happen it would have maybe. A man texting nasty obscene text messages of perversion and doesn't even know me! That's a huge turn off. Don't pretend to be so fascinated by my writing just to get in my pants! Or don't pretend to be a good man if you are looking to just be in my pants. I admit I' m not ghettofabulous and many are intimidated because I have some standards but I have a heart and some people may try to get over on me or dont appreciate it. I have always been kind of deep and unique and I think that some people don't know how to take you when you don't act like everybody else! I have never been into thugs, players, ballers, any of that. We arent all the same! s*x is a beautiful thing especially in a dating or relationship.
What attracts me is class, dress and smell nice, intelligence but the s*x appeal and personality is natural, a gentleman at heart secure in self or working on it, caring and loving, takes care of himself and knows how to treat a good woman like myself and respects me because I respect myself. Some attraction, vibe. If he has kids, takes care of them, and not some baby daddy. Someone I can enjoy hangin out with concerts, poetry, movies, beautiful scenery, etc. Someone who makes me laugh and smile! Men who are calling to make sure Im home safe, Someone to change that flat tire! Someone who is there!
I hear ya!!!! What I run into is men that are intimidated because I do, do things for myself. They seem not to understand that I have to do things on my own. I am the head of the house. I am the one who goes out to get the get the bacon, bring the bacon home, cook the bacon and have a place for the bacon and keep it cleaned, furnished including the outside. I do not like having to wait for someone to do it for me, I just do it.
In regards to men; if one comes along that I am attracted to, then so be it.
I joke with my co-workers who have men that don't want to work, and barely work. Then you have those who wants someone to take care of them. I am just not in to all that. I like coming home to a quiet place, where it is just me. No arguing over dumb things and I don't have to worry about insecurities. Besides I will not settle just anything and the first thing that comes along.