Does Monogamy Lead to Infidelity?
Learning how to incorporate your spouse into your everyday life so that you won't succumb to the temptations to stray! This will help you avoid the pain and shame of infidelity.
As soon as you start referring to a relationship as boring or dull, you might as well call the funeral home because your relationship is heading for an early grave. That is if you don't take immediate action; Otherwise known as couple's first aid.
In every relationship (marriage) there has to be a degree of routine factored in or there would be chaos. The time you go to work, the gym, pick up the kids from school or daycare (if you have kids) maybe even eat. These few examples allow for a bit of normalcy in a very hectic world.
When you began factoring in your individual interest, a favorite TV show, reading a good book, spending time with family and friends and for some playing on the internet the hours in the day seem to pass you by and you wonder where all the time has gone (for some of you it will be weeks and months that have passed). Your interest and hobbies can be the glue that keeps you sane and relaxed from all the hustle and flow of everyday life.
If you look at your weekly planner right now you are probably scheduled to the hilt, now count the hours that you have scheduled with your mate. If you are good and I mean really good, you may have 1-2 hours in a week set aside for you and your mate to spend time outside of the routine. We normally spend 8-12 hours a day away from our mates during the work week (ever wonder where work wives and work husbands come from?). Co-workers typically spend more awake time with our mates than we do (no excuse for cheating, this is just the reality of having to earn a living). Co-workers generally hear how your mate feels about most issues in their lives. Funny how when you two first met you couldn't wait to talk to each other about everything, now you get that out of the way at work or with friends. The problem talks are now what you save for your mate; no longer do you talk about how much you missed them while you were at work or what it means to have someone like them in your corner.
If both of you work closely with people that you go to lunch with, take breaks with and discuss your hopes and dreams with; You have just started an emotional affair that takes the intimacy which belongs to your mate and have given it to another. The next logical step leads to cheating. I know that many of you may say that this is the extreme, but if you talk with most people who have had affairs and ask them what led to them cheating and they normally point to a closeness that they developed with the other person and how it just happened (nothing really just happens it has to be thought out).
To prevent yourself from falling into this trap find away to incorporate your mate into your day; This may mean scheduling lunch dates with your mates or times that you two can connect over the phone if only for 2-5 minutes during your break time. After work find a hobby or interest that you can share with your mate and have fun at the same time. These tips will help you change a dull or stale relationship into something that you can be excited about.
As soon as you start referring to a relationship as boring or dull, you might as well call the funeral home because your relationship is heading for an early grave. That is if you don't take immediate action; Otherwise known as couple's first aid.
In every relationship (marriage) there has to be a degree of routine factored in or there would be chaos. The time you go to work, the gym, pick up the kids from school or daycare (if you have kids) maybe even eat. These few examples allow for a bit of normalcy in a very hectic world.
When you began factoring in your individual interest, a favorite TV show, reading a good book, spending time with family and friends and for some playing on the internet the hours in the day seem to pass you by and you wonder where all the time has gone (for some of you it will be weeks and months that have passed). Your interest and hobbies can be the glue that keeps you sane and relaxed from all the hustle and flow of everyday life.
If you look at your weekly planner right now you are probably scheduled to the hilt, now count the hours that you have scheduled with your mate. If you are good and I mean really good, you may have 1-2 hours in a week set aside for you and your mate to spend time outside of the routine. We normally spend 8-12 hours a day away from our mates during the work week (ever wonder where work wives and work husbands come from?). Co-workers typically spend more awake time with our mates than we do (no excuse for cheating, this is just the reality of having to earn a living). Co-workers generally hear how your mate feels about most issues in their lives. Funny how when you two first met you couldn't wait to talk to each other about everything, now you get that out of the way at work or with friends. The problem talks are now what you save for your mate; no longer do you talk about how much you missed them while you were at work or what it means to have someone like them in your corner.
If both of you work closely with people that you go to lunch with, take breaks with and discuss your hopes and dreams with; You have just started an emotional affair that takes the intimacy which belongs to your mate and have given it to another. The next logical step leads to cheating. I know that many of you may say that this is the extreme, but if you talk with most people who have had affairs and ask them what led to them cheating and they normally point to a closeness that they developed with the other person and how it just happened (nothing really just happens it has to be thought out).
To prevent yourself from falling into this trap find away to incorporate your mate into your day; This may mean scheduling lunch dates with your mates or times that you two can connect over the phone if only for 2-5 minutes during your break time. After work find a hobby or interest that you can share with your mate and have fun at the same time. These tips will help you change a dull or stale relationship into something that you can be excited about.
I can agree with this. We try to spend as many lunches together as work will premit. We keep our focus on our relationship and we constantly let each other know how important we are to each other.