Children
I have a 31 year old son, and a 27 year old son who is an aspriring Rapper. They still live at home. It's hard for me to put them out. The oldest one wants a job and look for one everyday. The youngest one, who is extremely good at what he does, has a B.A. Degree, has done acting and now Rapping www.myspace.com/wizpropane. He lives this dream to Rap and I support him 1000%. But, how do I get my boys to get a life and move out. I don't understand why I can't put them out. My girls got a life and doing their thing. Does anyone have any advice?
Hi Angela,
Sometimes as parents we have to we have to teach our children through the method of tough love. You can still support your sons dreams even if they are not still residing in the household.
Pray about it and step out on faith, let them know it is time to leave the nest and move on in the world, if they are serious about rapping and acting then they will continue to pursue the dream.
However, sometimes as parents when we try to nurture we can be of henderance to thier individual growth, 37 and 27 is old enough to realize that if one things doesn't necessarily work it is time to try plan B. Your youngest son has a college degree there are other things he can be doing, my suggestion and I hope not to sound harsh is to finally cut the umbilical cord and put them out there in the world and let them truly understand what it is like to be a men.
Let me give you an senario- let's say you were a women that met a man in the same situation as your sons, almost 40 and 30 still living at home with mom, trying to pursue a rap career.
Tell them it is time to move on and you still support and love them as you have their whole life. I hope this helps, because I am sure you have already thought about all the options.