Golddiggers
In my latest book entitled "Food for the Soul", I asked the questions to both black men and women, what do you love and hate about each other. One response that surfaced its head quite frequently, aside from the ones previously mentioned in my past blog, was what can be summed up as golddiggers, which I define as any woman who is exclusively out to get a man's gold so to speak, or is materialistic:
"What I hate about black women is that they're too picky sometimes. Just because the guy trying to talk to them doesn't have a car or a good job, to where they don't have to work, kills me."
"I hate black women who are lazy and have no ambition or motivation in life. Black women who ask God to send them a good man and when one comes into their lives, they don't appreciate the good things that he provides for them. For example, women who expect a man to have fancy material things that mean nothing, women who are too selective, gold digging women..."
"...My biggest conflict with black women is that they are very materialistic when it comes to dating. For example, black women break their necks to see what a brother is driving. Black women become very impressed if a brother has on jewelry or bling. Black women become impressed if a brother has on expensive clothes..."
"I hate the fact that some black women have an inability to recognize that a "Good Black Man" is something more than a brotha' who walks with a swagger, is good in bed and will buy you everything you see Beyonce with. Because of this choice many of our black women have unfortunately found themselves in a relationship with a man's money and style, but not his heart..."
The feedback in regards to this subject, goes on and on... I couldn't list it all...it's numerous... however, materialism, and golddiggers aren't the only prevalent answers I received as far as what black men disliked, it's one of many... I thought I'd address this one anyway.
There's nothing wrong in my opinion with a sister desiring a man to bring to the table, what she brings to the table, all things being equal, however, when money is the only focus or value you find in, of and for a man, I find that shallow. Since the tables have turned, and women have become bread winners, even though we still get paid less than men, I've come across men, who have the same expectation of their women, that they bring home the bacon as well, opposed to being provided for. That's perfectly fine as well, whatever works for your situation or relationship, however golddiggers, rather they be jigalo's or women out for a man's cash, who move on to the next victim, once they've rolled up all the dough, and decide there's no more flour, so to speak, I have to ask, why are you that way? Why do you choose money over love, or ascribe more value to materialism than respect and affection?
To hear more, on what men love and hate about black women and vice versa, check out "Food for the Soul", available at www.authorhouse.com; www.amazon.com and Barnes & Noble.
"What I hate about black women is that they're too picky sometimes. Just because the guy trying to talk to them doesn't have a car or a good job, to where they don't have to work, kills me."
"I hate black women who are lazy and have no ambition or motivation in life. Black women who ask God to send them a good man and when one comes into their lives, they don't appreciate the good things that he provides for them. For example, women who expect a man to have fancy material things that mean nothing, women who are too selective, gold digging women..."
"...My biggest conflict with black women is that they are very materialistic when it comes to dating. For example, black women break their necks to see what a brother is driving. Black women become very impressed if a brother has on jewelry or bling. Black women become impressed if a brother has on expensive clothes..."
"I hate the fact that some black women have an inability to recognize that a "Good Black Man" is something more than a brotha' who walks with a swagger, is good in bed and will buy you everything you see Beyonce with. Because of this choice many of our black women have unfortunately found themselves in a relationship with a man's money and style, but not his heart..."
The feedback in regards to this subject, goes on and on... I couldn't list it all...it's numerous... however, materialism, and golddiggers aren't the only prevalent answers I received as far as what black men disliked, it's one of many... I thought I'd address this one anyway.
There's nothing wrong in my opinion with a sister desiring a man to bring to the table, what she brings to the table, all things being equal, however, when money is the only focus or value you find in, of and for a man, I find that shallow. Since the tables have turned, and women have become bread winners, even though we still get paid less than men, I've come across men, who have the same expectation of their women, that they bring home the bacon as well, opposed to being provided for. That's perfectly fine as well, whatever works for your situation or relationship, however golddiggers, rather they be jigalo's or women out for a man's cash, who move on to the next victim, once they've rolled up all the dough, and decide there's no more flour, so to speak, I have to ask, why are you that way? Why do you choose money over love, or ascribe more value to materialism than respect and affection?
To hear more, on what men love and hate about black women and vice versa, check out "Food for the Soul", available at www.authorhouse.com; www.amazon.com and Barnes & Noble.
