Are you a commitment-phobe?
One more reason that 70% of black women are possibly single has to do with commitment phobia, which I discuss in depth in my book "Food for the Soul" available at www.authorhouse.com, Barnes & Noble, and www.amazon.com. Are you a commitment phobe?
1. Do you have a habit of making yourself unattractive so a relationship may never turn out to be successful?
2. Do you believe or hold the impression that relationships will inevitably end in divorce or detachment?
3. Do you tend to criticize your partner, and for no reason whatsoever?
4. Do you have high (almost unobtainable) expectations of your partners?
5. Do you tend to make accusations or accuse your partner without reason?
6. Are you flirtatious and engage in having several partners at the same time?
I can pose several other questions as well, however, if you answered yes to all or the majority of the questions thus far, I have to also ask if you are a product of divorce, did your parents separate, or have you had or experienced bad or unhealthy relationships yourself?
According to Phobias-Help.com at the heart of commitment phobia "is the fear of rejection by others. To pre-empt this they will reject first, impose distance between themselves and others and thus feel safe."
I discuss more symptoms and characteristics of commitment-phobics in "Food for the Soul" as well as how to cure it. I feel this is a significant matter to black women, in the sense some of us grew up without fathers in the home, or period, for that matter, or saw our mothers bout through several painful, abusive or unhealthy relationships that all ended inevitably in failure, exposing us to little faith, belief or hope in or for relationships ourselves, within our own lives. Commitment phobia may not be pertinent to you, whether you are in a relationship or single, but if you answered yes to or identified with some of the questions posed, it might be well worth examining, and could possibly help you attain better quality and more loving and fulfilling relationships. I invite you to check out my book at the following link: http://www.authorhouse.com/Bookstore/ItemD...
And welcome commentary, always... thanks for listening...
1. Do you have a habit of making yourself unattractive so a relationship may never turn out to be successful?
2. Do you believe or hold the impression that relationships will inevitably end in divorce or detachment?
3. Do you tend to criticize your partner, and for no reason whatsoever?
4. Do you have high (almost unobtainable) expectations of your partners?
5. Do you tend to make accusations or accuse your partner without reason?
6. Are you flirtatious and engage in having several partners at the same time?
I can pose several other questions as well, however, if you answered yes to all or the majority of the questions thus far, I have to also ask if you are a product of divorce, did your parents separate, or have you had or experienced bad or unhealthy relationships yourself?
According to Phobias-Help.com at the heart of commitment phobia "is the fear of rejection by others. To pre-empt this they will reject first, impose distance between themselves and others and thus feel safe."
I discuss more symptoms and characteristics of commitment-phobics in "Food for the Soul" as well as how to cure it. I feel this is a significant matter to black women, in the sense some of us grew up without fathers in the home, or period, for that matter, or saw our mothers bout through several painful, abusive or unhealthy relationships that all ended inevitably in failure, exposing us to little faith, belief or hope in or for relationships ourselves, within our own lives. Commitment phobia may not be pertinent to you, whether you are in a relationship or single, but if you answered yes to or identified with some of the questions posed, it might be well worth examining, and could possibly help you attain better quality and more loving and fulfilling relationships. I invite you to check out my book at the following link: http://www.authorhouse.com/Bookstore/ItemD...
And welcome commentary, always... thanks for listening...
