Sisters should support each other, not tear each other down...a message to MarthaFernandez
A few days ago I joined this site and posted a comment about the beauty of black women.....top blogger Martha Fernadez attacked my comment viciously....apparently she had a problem that as a latina woman I was acknowledging that black women, not hispanic women, taught me everything I know....I was simply making an acknowledgement based on my experience....here is an excerpt of the message she left me in my private email...........
"I will be nice about it--it's fernadnez with a z, the s is the portugues spelling--two I really don't need someone 30 years younger than me telling me that balck somen have carried the torch in their communities--duh--however--I am not going to call you out to win brownie points--stop trying to be blacker than black--it's not necessary--how would people feel it other said " I am proud to be Latina" and why not--"
Now, I respect what Ms.Fernandez is saying but I dont understand why she continues to respond in such an adverse manner....using all of her "big words" to correct me... (even though she saif she wouldnt call me out, she did anyway) I thought this was a blog where professional women would be able to share their thoughts and views....didnt knoew I had to have a PHD to write and say thank you to black women! although she claimed she would not respond to my blog response, she wrote a lenghthy piece knocking me yet again.....I dont understand why Latina women always feel the need to instantly knock other latinas down when they dont defend the race.....I can only speak from my experience of being a black dominincan.....we have alsways been treated like the bottom of the barrell simply because of our skin color and she dare be upset because I acknowledged a group of women who instilled pride in me? It's senseless.....needless to say, check out my response to her....
Hello Ms.Fernadez....I find it a little chidish, particularly you being a professor and all, the way in which you continue to attack me....i simply responded to an ignorant comment you made in response to a simple quote I left as a try-out on this site.....you once again reconfirm the arrogance of latina women, I'm sorry if I offended you as I spoke out on my experience.....sincerely apologize, that was not my intention, I was simply acknowledging what you just confirmed 9that african american women are great) it seemed to me like you were offended that I simply acknowledeged that.....thank you for giving me such a gracious welcome, it's always so wonderful to be so well received by the elders....this is exactly why we continue to struggle in the hispanic communitty and why i've always aligned and assimilated with black americans....an older sister about 30 years my senior as you so keenly put it in the private email you sent me, may have taken a different aproach instead of attacking me.....perhaps admonishing or correcting me becuase were not the same age, but you 've just attacked (again)...the good old latin way.....thank you Ms. fernandez, your comments cannott and will not stop me from sharing my thoughts......were suppose to be connecting on this site....REMEMBER? Now I respect my elders so i'm going to take in what you've said and mull them over, I'd apreciate it if you continued to share your insights in a professional manner and stop using me as your springboard for launching a public debate that has no merit......it seems like someone needs a reality check....set an example for once and mentor a sister instead of tearing her down, that would be more apropriate, dont you think?
Respectfully,
Niurka LeBron
if you want to read inspirational stuff get on my blog: http://soul-smart.blogspot.com, it's not that serious I just talk about day to day stuff as I see it, not trying to educate anyone, just speaking my mind....if you like my style....check it out.
Sending you Hugs and Love ,
Niurka
"I will be nice about it--it's fernadnez with a z, the s is the portugues spelling--two I really don't need someone 30 years younger than me telling me that balck somen have carried the torch in their communities--duh--however--I am not going to call you out to win brownie points--stop trying to be blacker than black--it's not necessary--how would people feel it other said " I am proud to be Latina" and why not--"
Now, I respect what Ms.Fernandez is saying but I dont understand why she continues to respond in such an adverse manner....using all of her "big words" to correct me... (even though she saif she wouldnt call me out, she did anyway) I thought this was a blog where professional women would be able to share their thoughts and views....didnt knoew I had to have a PHD to write and say thank you to black women! although she claimed she would not respond to my blog response, she wrote a lenghthy piece knocking me yet again.....I dont understand why Latina women always feel the need to instantly knock other latinas down when they dont defend the race.....I can only speak from my experience of being a black dominincan.....we have alsways been treated like the bottom of the barrell simply because of our skin color and she dare be upset because I acknowledged a group of women who instilled pride in me? It's senseless.....needless to say, check out my response to her....
Hello Ms.Fernadez....I find it a little chidish, particularly you being a professor and all, the way in which you continue to attack me....i simply responded to an ignorant comment you made in response to a simple quote I left as a try-out on this site.....you once again reconfirm the arrogance of latina women, I'm sorry if I offended you as I spoke out on my experience.....sincerely apologize, that was not my intention, I was simply acknowledging what you just confirmed 9that african american women are great) it seemed to me like you were offended that I simply acknowledeged that.....thank you for giving me such a gracious welcome, it's always so wonderful to be so well received by the elders....this is exactly why we continue to struggle in the hispanic communitty and why i've always aligned and assimilated with black americans....an older sister about 30 years my senior as you so keenly put it in the private email you sent me, may have taken a different aproach instead of attacking me.....perhaps admonishing or correcting me becuase were not the same age, but you 've just attacked (again)...the good old latin way.....thank you Ms. fernandez, your comments cannott and will not stop me from sharing my thoughts......were suppose to be connecting on this site....REMEMBER? Now I respect my elders so i'm going to take in what you've said and mull them over, I'd apreciate it if you continued to share your insights in a professional manner and stop using me as your springboard for launching a public debate that has no merit......it seems like someone needs a reality check....set an example for once and mentor a sister instead of tearing her down, that would be more apropriate, dont you think?
Respectfully,
Niurka LeBron
if you want to read inspirational stuff get on my blog: http://soul-smart.blogspot.com, it's not that serious I just talk about day to day stuff as I see it, not trying to educate anyone, just speaking my mind....if you like my style....check it out.
Sending you Hugs and Love ,
Niurka
You've received some very sound advice from both these ladies. Try taking a more surreal approach and let it pass.