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HELP!!!!! There's An Angry White Woman At My Job--Any Solutions or Suggestions?

HELP!!!!! There's An Angry White Woman At My Job--Any Solutions or Suggestions?

Jen Fad · Friday, October 10th 2008 at 8:54PM · 228 views
Hello BWC. I wanted to get something off my chest. You all well know about the Angry Black Woman Syndrome, but have you ever experienced the Angry White Woman Syndrome?
As nurses we work hard enough as it is and this woman finishes her break only to return to tell me how I haven't done a blood draw correctly in front of her patient with such a nasty attitude. I want to report her unprofessional behavior to my manager, but what do you guys think at BWC? I need suggestions on how you would handle a situation like this where a co worker criticized your work in front of a client or customer.


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Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D. Friday, October 10th 2008 at 10:44PM

You are going to have to confront her, in private,away from anybody.
Not like she did, she has motives.( they like to talk down to you around their people,to show that their superior,( got it twisted)!!
Let me shed some light ! You are Her Mother and she is really YOUR CHILD !
Come right out and ask her, "Do you have a problem with me" ? ( make sure you look her in the eyes when you ask) She'll say : What do you mean ? (or) I don't know what you're talking about. Then smile and say, "You and I both know that you do, but we won't have to take this any further, if you be woman enough to tell me the issue you have with me ,so that we can move on.If you insist that one doesn't exist, and you continue, then I will assume that you understand the involement of another will be necessary to resolve". "I have peace in my life,and I'm going to have it on my job as well, with or without your cooperation". ( Be strong and firm,then walk away ) .You have told her you are aware of her,that she's a big liar,and that you have recource for any more of her foolishness. (All in one breath).Stick to your guns Sister,you can't be her whipping post ! Follow through with your actions,write the date and time down when you have your chit chat and any other incidences.
It's called ,on the job harrassment or hostile work enviorment.
I've worked around them all my life, I know how they are ,and what they'll do. Welcome to the club ! Keep me posted. Doc

Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D. Saturday, October 11th 2008 at 11:01AM

Great Dr.JH ! That was excellent advise,as a matter of fact, I would try your method first, and then if it didn't work , I would go on to plan B.
When we concentrate on things we don't want, in her case, the confrontation. And concentrate on what we do want, which is peace of mind at work, the universe can make that peace happen. She,( the angry female), may even be taken out of the equation.
Part of that visulization and concentration is getting into THE FEELING part of it.
But these things Can and do work.There's a process. Peace, Doc.

Jen Fad Sunday, October 12th 2008 at 12:42AM

Thanks for your imput here because more brains are better than one. I am very professional when it comes to my work and I don't tolerate unprofessional people especially criticizing me infront of clients/patients. I will not confront the woman directly, but I think the best thing to do in this situation is to report her behavior to my manager on Tuesday after the staff meeting. I really think the lady has issues that she needs addressed with a trained professional psychiatrist or psychologist. I will make sure I stay away from her and her patients from here on out. She can do her own blood draws and whatever else that needs to be done.

Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D. Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 10:15AM

I think me and Dr. Jackie was giving you a perspective from our experiences of fighting our own battles before it got too far.
Seems you already had your solution.
If you have an H R department, this is going to wind up turned over to them.(maybe) Because nobody has time for this stupidity and its going to wind up He says/she says.
Can you not stand back and see that for every action, there's a reaction ?
She is very cunning and will say just as I told you she would and tell this person you will report her actions to, by saying that she doesn't know what you are talking about and you will look like we always do as being a cry baby.
It is going to look like you are the one with the issue.
After the first time she pulled that stupid action, I wouldn't have been botherd with her.
But do what you have to do,we were only trying to save you some steps, that you will find out about later. Peace, and good luck. Doc.

Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D. Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 10:17AM

Sorry your complaining is going to come across as being unprofessional, it usually does. So you might want to think about that.

Jen Fad Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 6:15PM

Doc I see that you feel very strongly about your advice and I didn't mean to offend you sister. I did go to the staff meeting today at work and I didn't get an opportunity to talk with my manager about the issue because there is some union activity so I just decided to forget about the whole ordeal especially since I work 2 days a week. It just isn't worth it for me. I will have some choice words for her if this angry woman should cross my path again in a negative way. Thanks again.

Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D. Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 9:41PM

Great ! Good for you, It all works out, because it isn't worth it.
She just had an issue with you and was hoping you would go take it to the manager. Like i said earlier, I know how they operate.
What she really desires is , some attention from you for one reason or another.
I'm not even there and I know that. (its something about you)
I feel so strong about things like this because too many of us Don't tell each other things that can help us.
We women are prime examples because of hatin.
We just came into telling one another if our slips were showing, let alone how to advance or cope in the work force.
But this is a new day and you and other Sisters are going to have to get use to the fact that there are going to be more and more of us stepping up to the plate and taking care of our own. Our time has arrived.
I wish there had been someone around to have helped me in all the times I reacted,and lost my job as a result, that wasn't worth it in the first place.
you're making a good choice, I'm glad God intervened with giving you the wisdom, and not given you that opportunity because of the union activity.
God moves in mysterious ways ! You are meant to be able to work in peace.

Ok. I'm done now. LOL. Doc

Min.Dr.LaDonna Blaylock D.D. Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 9:42PM

P.S. you could never offend me. I won't let you !

Jen Fad Thursday, October 23rd 2008 at 3:28PM

Doc you are absolutely awesome!

Jen Fad Saturday, April 18th 2009 at 11:20PM

Update...this woman is leaving and moving to a new city...her last day is 23 April 2009!!!

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