The Black Woman's Glass Ceiling
You are your glass ceiling. It's not the man - it's the mind. It's not society - it's self. It's not our brothas - it's our b.a.g.s (blame, anger, guilt, and shame). It's not our wealth - it's our worth. Your sense of worth is showing up in all areas of your life - bank account, health, relationships, career, and business. It's the common denominator.
Your self-worth is being attacked without you even realizing it. Society's labels are constantly placed on African-American women. If you wear hair extensions, then you're trying to be Caucasian. If your hair is natural, then you're militant. If you express your feelings, then you're an 'Angry Black Woman'. The lighter your skin, then the prettier you are. I heard many times that I was pretty for a dark-skinned girl. This came from other African-Americans. Without even realizing it, I absorbed it. It slowly tugged at my self-worth. Enough with the qualifiers. We have to stop accepting blame for the ignorance of others. Others' judgments are not your truth.
Your family and community have influenced how you see yourself. We have to work twice as hard for half as much. Everything comes easily for them. Raise your hand if you've ever heard or said one of those before. I'm willing to bet that if you're 25 and older, then you've come across these statements before. How old were you when you heard it? Who said it? I heard it from a family member. Unknowingly, they planted a seed of being less than.
Slavery has long lasting and deeply rooted effects. You can't have had your ancestors treated as property and then carry on like it never happened. There aren't enough apologies to erase it or heal the wounds that still ache. Ignoring the wounds only makes it worse.
There is an inner slave and an inner slave master inside of all of us. We have to explore, embrace and accept both. We have to explore its existence inside of us. We have to embrace that they do exist and the valuable character traits they've taught us. We have to accept that together they make us who we are and strengthen us. My inner slave causes me to do what needs to be done because it needs to be done, not because I like it. My inner slave master pushes me work harder to accomplish my goals. We can shatter the glass ceiling once and for all by truly valuing ourselves. We must find value in all parts of our identity - the good and the not so good. There's value in our light and dark sides.
Nothing outside of you determines your worth - not your degree, your partner, your job, your performance review. You aren't better than or worse than anyone. You are valuable. You are highly intelligent. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are creative. You are loved...exactly as you are. In order to uplevel your finances, you have to multiply your self-worth. Shatter your limiting beliefs and behaviors and you'll be limitless and unstoppable. You'll confidently make every dream you have a reality.
How are you going to shatter your financial glass ceiling once and for all?
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Sarah Aderson, Speaker, Leg-a-SHE Strategist, and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mompreneur Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers women entrepreneurs to charge what they're worth so they can leave a legacy for their family and the world. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
To get your free Heart Work ecourse, go here: www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
Your self-worth is being attacked without you even realizing it. Society's labels are constantly placed on African-American women. If you wear hair extensions, then you're trying to be Caucasian. If your hair is natural, then you're militant. If you express your feelings, then you're an 'Angry Black Woman'. The lighter your skin, then the prettier you are. I heard many times that I was pretty for a dark-skinned girl. This came from other African-Americans. Without even realizing it, I absorbed it. It slowly tugged at my self-worth. Enough with the qualifiers. We have to stop accepting blame for the ignorance of others. Others' judgments are not your truth.
Your family and community have influenced how you see yourself. We have to work twice as hard for half as much. Everything comes easily for them. Raise your hand if you've ever heard or said one of those before. I'm willing to bet that if you're 25 and older, then you've come across these statements before. How old were you when you heard it? Who said it? I heard it from a family member. Unknowingly, they planted a seed of being less than.
Slavery has long lasting and deeply rooted effects. You can't have had your ancestors treated as property and then carry on like it never happened. There aren't enough apologies to erase it or heal the wounds that still ache. Ignoring the wounds only makes it worse.
There is an inner slave and an inner slave master inside of all of us. We have to explore, embrace and accept both. We have to explore its existence inside of us. We have to embrace that they do exist and the valuable character traits they've taught us. We have to accept that together they make us who we are and strengthen us. My inner slave causes me to do what needs to be done because it needs to be done, not because I like it. My inner slave master pushes me work harder to accomplish my goals. We can shatter the glass ceiling once and for all by truly valuing ourselves. We must find value in all parts of our identity - the good and the not so good. There's value in our light and dark sides.
Nothing outside of you determines your worth - not your degree, your partner, your job, your performance review. You aren't better than or worse than anyone. You are valuable. You are highly intelligent. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are creative. You are loved...exactly as you are. In order to uplevel your finances, you have to multiply your self-worth. Shatter your limiting beliefs and behaviors and you'll be limitless and unstoppable. You'll confidently make every dream you have a reality.
How are you going to shatter your financial glass ceiling once and for all?
Feel free to share this article, but please include the information below:
Sarah Aderson, Speaker, Leg-a-SHE Strategist, and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mompreneur Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers women entrepreneurs to charge what they're worth so they can leave a legacy for their family and the world. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
To get your free Heart Work ecourse, go here: www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
