How Can You Forgive What Can't Be Forgotten?

Good Morning Nathalie,

In order to forgive, you have to know the true meaning of what forgiveness is. TRUE forgiveness is when you actually stop penalizing a person for what they have done. It is then and only then that you have truly forgiven that person and have moved on. At the point you open up the pathway for God to bless you real good because at that point your heart is pure.

I hope that blesses you and have a blessed day,

Cassandra Carter
www.thickmadame.org
info@thickmadame.org

..."Is there anyone else going through this issue and have you decided to forgive?"...

You aren't alone on this issue Brother believe you me!! I just recently learned to just let it go and let God on an issue that I had been carrying for over 8 years and it wasn't easy. I want to let you know that I still struggle from time to time with issues of unforgivenss, but with the Holy Spirit all things are possible. Thanks for the blog.

Hey Nathalie a great person once told me forgiviness is not acceptance it's release. My father was robbed and killed his body left ten feet from my grandmothers house. Talk about pain and anger. But I realized, after I couldn't attend his funeral because I was giving birth to my first child, that the anger I was holding on was controlling me. I chose to forgive the person(s) that were guilty of his murder so that I could be free and not bitter because I had a child to also consider. I never forgot what they did. They took something very important to me. My child grew up without a grandfather and my grandfather was the best thing I ever had so it hurt deep. So yes you can forgive without condoning their behavior (God knows I don't condone murder) and still remember what was done without threatnening your act of forgiviness.

You know people use the word closure a lot when they have had some upsets in their lives, but how can you have closure if you can't forgive? It's not that you have to forget what took place, put it in front of you, look at it and say Lord, I need to get on with my life, I need peace in order to be whole, cry if you must because it too is cleansing. Don't allow someone else to take over your life, holding on to pain caused by someone else is so overpowering and you must not allow that to happen. So, please, put it all in the hands of God and let it go it's time....

Thank you for all of your encouraging words.