Topic of the Week: For Better or Worse My Foot!!! (1604 hits)
“ Whatever happened to for better or worse, in sickness and in health until death do us part? If your spouse, your boo or your lover was to one day suddenly become broke, sick, handicapped or incapacitated in some shape, form or fashion what do you think you would really do if you were in a marriage / serious relationship with them? What should you do if your spouse develops a physical handicap or they become mentally challenged? What kind of emotions do you experience? Have you been through this or know of someone who is going through this right now? Do you really have the stamina to go through the fire, through whatever come what may? What advice could you offer to the rest of us?”
This one I can speak on. 5 years ago I went into cardiac arrest and woke up 8 weeks later with a trachea, lungs that were almost useless. My life completely changed. I could not provide the life my family was acustomed to (financially or physically. People would comment to my husband that they did not know if they could deal wth it. Or she is lucky. My husband let that stuff cloud his judgeme
Wednesday, March 18th 2009 at 11:22PM
Sherry Doran
sorry...as I was saying he let the hype cloud his judgement and all hell broke lose we seperated many times and this summer after he filed for divorce and I realized he wasn't worthy of the wife i'd been my health took a turn for the worse. God don't like ugly and I guess like walking pass a mirror he saw himself . And it hit him that his family would rather be homeless than live with him; and i changed him and it eventually allowed us to like each other, than care and now we are living together again.
Wednesday, March 18th 2009 at 11:34PM
Sherry Doran
What happen to for better or for worse, the party saying it din't believe that would happen to them some made it through and others didn't. They forgot they were friends and not mere partners
Wednesday, March 18th 2009 at 11:45PM
Kristina Nelson
As Sherry said her husband let others influence his judgement. My family has generations of long marriages (even through all that they went through) and one concurrent theme is communication and trust. When a loved ones stops communicating and trusting that this is where they want to be whatever relationship they are in will be doomed to fail.
Wednesday, March 18th 2009 at 11:50PM
crystal smith
You know the song "Stand". Well after many a surgery that I have had my husband of 10 years, just 10! Is still here with me, providing for his family and taking care of his wife. Only a weak man or woman would walk away from someone that they claimed to have loved so much that they just had to be with them, then one day their physical appearance or capabilities change and like the wind their love flies out the door. Maybe, just maybe it's me, but is that true love? My husband has been there for me through my cancer, shoulder surgery, etc. and I am confident that he is my soul mate until the Lord decides to take one of us on home. Work that out! Praise Him!
Thursday, March 19th 2009 at 3:15PM
Gwen Coleman
Oh, and one other thing, if something were to happen to him and he became ill and his income was needed, we know how to move to a smaller home and let the expensive vehicles go. It's nothing but material wants anyway. I'm wondering why we even brought such a large home these days. That's love!
Thursday, March 19th 2009 at 3:19PM
Gwen Coleman
